hawkgrrrl wrote: ↑
15 May 2019, 13:26
I forgot to post this from last week. I was ruminating on the reasons why, as a progressive who's long been clamoring for changes like the recent sealing policy change, why is it that I'm suddenly freshly bothered when the changes occur.
Hawk -- this is exactly what I was going through in the One Year Waiting Period Discontinuation thread a while ago. Yes, I was happy they changed it, but it really ticked me off at the same time for all the reasons you gave. Until I dealt with it and reached equilibrium again.
Some here made comments like "so, you complain about this policy for years and when they change it, now you complain about the fact that they changed it! Nothing the church does will ever make you happy because you're just out to criticize!". Well, there are a host of reasons contribute to this backlash, even though its a welcome change.
You encapsulated all the reasons:
1. What else aren't they getting right?
2. After all the sacrifices I made, believing you were right, they just set it aside like that?
3. What about all my relationships that are in tatters as a result of the past policies I followed like a good soldier -- care to apologize?
4. What a dufus I was to be so callous and arrogant toward others over those policies that were ill-formed in the first place. Boy do I ever regret that.
5. How can I trust the church organization anymore? Time to get on my own clock about EVERYTHING, and I guess that means I feel less and less a part of this organization.
I want to add one more --
So, the one-year waiting period was fine when the only "cost" was to individual members family relationships, and not to the church institution as a whole. But now that the same-sex marriage agenda seems to be proliferating our society, this threatens the church. So, THAT motivates you to separate civil form temple marriages. How ego-centric of you and uncaring toward your membership!
It's kind of like growing up. As a kid, you think your parents and Santa Claus (the church) can do anything. They know it all. Then as you get adult brains and eyes, you see warts on your parents. Eventually, you learn what your parents are good at, and what they aren't. There is a period of massive deflation when you realize there is no Santa Claus. Only a fat guy in a white suit with high blood pressure, high cholesterol, trouble controlling his or her eating habits, sometimes bad advice, and a limited scope of expertise. But still possessing a certain amount of experience or benefits to you nonetheless. But nothing like what you thought he was prior to taking off the suit and seeing him for what he really is. Then you find you can make your own happiness, but keep the adult relationship within certain boundaries to stop it from disturbing your inner peace or encouraging you to make bad decisions.
It becomes a mixed bag.
One thing I know for sure -- when traditional believers get to the other side and IF
they find there isn't one true church, or that all the sacrifices they made in this life were not necessary, you're going to have a lot of TICKED people in Zion.
Not saying that will happen, (and I still have some faith that our church is mostly what it says it is) but if this does happen on the other side, watch out for a wave of discontent and feelings. Feelings a lot like the ones I and others experienced over the discontinuation of the one-year waiting period policy.