1) Your kids are young - only one is actually in regular Primary lessons and that one is getting pretty basic stuff, although there could be stuff you disagree with. You (and your spouse) are primarily responsible for teaching your children the gospel, Primary is supposed to be there to help you. My kids were older when my FC started and do not know the depth of my questions and doubts, but I do talk to them about things like evolution and literalism of scripture stories as the occasions arise (my issues are mostly not historical). With a younger child there's probably going to need to be a discussion about blurting out things like "My daddy says Adam and Eve aren't real people" in class. I do believe that LDS.org is a good place to begin as the children get older - the essays are great and hopefully there will be many more by the time they are old enough to understand them.SunbeltRed wrote:1) Any quick advice or best practices for the middle way with small children? We have three kids (6,2,1). I prefer to raise them in the church, I want to give them the best perspective I can, I want to represent church history accurately and softly help them to be their own spiritual guides, but I want to respect their agency and let them come to their own conclusions.
2) And, I do have a stake calling. Not in the Stake Presidency, but I work with them a lot. I think my calling is what caused me to reexamine much of this, wondering if I can represent the SP but also be authentic. I feel like I have been able to reconcile having the calling I have with my new faith paradigm. I am temple worthy, I don't plan on vocalizing any of the things I share here (although I have been revising messages and talks to sound more literal Mormon, but subtly changed to reflect my views). This may sound strange, but I feel like my calling may give me the opportunity to find and work with those with questions like myself and be able to connect and help them in a way that most active members would not understand or comprehend. I have already been able to help a good friend who shares many of my concerns.
Would love to get your thoughts.
2) I also have a stake calling (I'm sending you a PM). I think you're on the right track - I also don't vocalize my beliefs, I stick to standard teachings - although I do choose what to teach and not to teach and simply leave out that with which I don't agree. Innuendo is great in this case. I frequently quote Pres. Uchtdorf, sometimes without actually saying so (like using "It is not that simple") and look to see who seems to get it. I too, think you can be of help to others, and you should try to find the ones and do so - but be careful. In the cases I have been involved in (and I don't want to reveal too much here) I do not share my own doubts/questions and I don't ask the other people to - I mostly assure them it's OK to have questions and doubts and that they have to find their own answers. I do share with them that I did not attend church for an extended period of time because of my doubts but I also tell them that's not the answer - I mostly do that so they understand I have been where they are.
Good luck, keep coming back - I really do look forward to hearing more from you. We need people like you here and in your calling.