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Ilovechrist77
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Hi there, everybody!

Post by Ilovechrist77 » 11 Nov 2011, 01:16

My name is [name removed by moderator] and I am a single [adult in my 30's]. I live a college town in northern Illinois. The membership in this town isn't very strong, so finding eternal companions has pretty much impossible. I was raised in the church, although I didn't develop any spiritual of Christ or the Church until I turned 20. I served a difficult, but fulfilling mission in Las Vegas. Although I'm converted to the Gospel and the Church, I have had some problems with sex addictions (I'm actually still a virgin) that I'm taking meds for, I've had counseling, and I've talked to my bishop about. But in those regards, when it comes to overcoming sex addiction why is there so much uncertainty. I've realized any addiction support groups inside outside of the church have made me feel more tempted to relapse, while just counseling and being on meds have worked wonders. And yet I've met people that say I need a support group. Anyway...even though I believe the Church, I have a problem with how the Church preaches about the Law of Chastity. The Church concentrates too much on sexual sin and not enough about what to do to keep it. But then it may not be the church, it might just be me. What bugs is the Lord allowing Church members and leaders to often state opinions as facts in talks without being corrected. That causes alot of people to digress spiritually. Anyway...I still love the church, its people, its leaders and everything else. If you questions or comments, feel free to do so.

Roy
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Post by Roy » 11 Nov 2011, 18:40

First of all welcome to the group,
Ilovechrist77 wrote:I have had some problems with sex addictions (I'm actually still a virgin) that I'm taking meds for,
Are you referring to porn addiction? Or is this something different? I'm glad the meds are helping, though I have trouble understanding how the meds accomplish this task.

I guess what I'm saying is that I know very little about what it is you are going through, but if you would like to elaborate I am willing to learn from your experiences.
Ilovechrist77 wrote:What bugs is the Lord allowing Church members and leaders to often state opinions as facts in talks without being corrected.
It would seem that there is an indefinite relationship between the Lord and the Church. No one in the church is a puppet or microphone for the Lord.

What the Lord decides to give direct instruction on (as opposed to letting church leaders do the best they can with what they have [including conclusions based upon scriptures and past revelations]) and how that direct instruction is received as it percolates through the individual leader's preconceived notions, cultural baggage, personality, and other personal attributes - is unclear.

Again welcome!
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Post by Minyan Man » 11 Nov 2011, 19:21

Hello "Ilovechrist77",
Welcome to the group.
I too don't know much about your situation.
I would agree with Roy's comments.
I am interested to hear more about your thoughts, feelings & experiences.

Mike from Milton.

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Post by Curt Sunshine » 11 Nov 2011, 21:39

Welcome. I'm glad you are here.

Just one word of advice:

Don't look to us for counsel regarding any of your clinical issues, and don't think of this site as a place of confession. We aren't experts in those areas, and we mostly are here as more of a support group for those who are trying to figure out to "StayLDS" despite various struggles. We aren't professional counselors, and we can't take their place or do their job. It sounds like you need that kind of help, as well as whatever we can provide in the way of friendship, fellowship and sharing our thoughts and experiences.

I don't mean to be dismissive in any way, and I really am glad you are here. Welcome.
I see through my glass, darkly - as I play my saxophone in harmony with the other instruments in God's orchestra. (h/t Elder Joseph Wirthlin)

Even if people view many things differently, the core Gospel principles (LOVE; belief in the unseen but hoped; self-reflective change; symbolic cleansing; striving to recognize the will of the divine; never giving up) are universal.

"For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong." H. L. Mencken

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Post by Ilovechrist77 » 11 Nov 2011, 22:57

I'm sorry for disclosing the wrong information. When I introduced myself I meant that medication has helped my body with a chemical imbalance, which has helped me control over myself better. The medication is also OCD, an anxiety and panic disorder. I used to have a severe problem with religious addiction, but not so much anymore. I do see a counselor (not from the church) that helps me with this. And I do talk to my bishop about this from time to time. Any sexual issues I'll just leave to the LDS websites that address those issues. Now I have had some some real issues with the church beyond this. I used to be super conservative when I converted to the church when I was 20. I used to believe that whenever a member of the church (leaders especially) tried to make righteous decisions regarding anything they always make the right decisions. How wrong I was! On my mission that not was not always the case. As I've gotten older and have been recovering from my addictions I've become more liberal. I have a testimony the church is the Lord's. I just believe that not every program (not principle or ordinance) is inspired of God, like I used to before. Before I would just accept what the leaders or church said or did without question. Now if things don't make sense to me, I question those things, but I don't start contention. I used to believe the church was perfect in the sense that it doesn't need progression. Now I know that really means the church has the priesthood, prophets, apostles, and modern-day continued revelation. Anyway sorry for not being so clear and for scaring anybody.

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Post by Curt Sunshine » 12 Nov 2011, 11:34

I think a lot of us can relate to your situation, in one way or another.

Again, welcome.
I see through my glass, darkly - as I play my saxophone in harmony with the other instruments in God's orchestra. (h/t Elder Joseph Wirthlin)

Even if people view many things differently, the core Gospel principles (LOVE; belief in the unseen but hoped; self-reflective change; symbolic cleansing; striving to recognize the will of the divine; never giving up) are universal.

"For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong." H. L. Mencken

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