Being overwhelmed by others right now
Posted: 01 Oct 2019, 06:08
A bit under a year ago, I posted on here about how I am helping a friend through his separation and divorce:
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=9273
Well, that's still grinding on. And it's grinding me down. Only last night I got a forwarded email from someone wanting to resign, complaining no one had been helping him. I can think of at least twelve members who have helped him in some way.
She was also complaining no one had phoned her. Unfortunately, this is true, but she did list five members who have. I should have. I also should have visited her, but I don't have a car, and she lives in an isolated part of the ward. She has had an awful time.
* The church profits off "Sin City". I want to point out that LDS did not start off Las Vegas' gambling interests. As far as I know, LDS aren't a major factor in the whole thing.
* The temples are too expensive. I'm not unsympathetic to this.
* The church is male dominated. Yes it is.
* The church doesn't look after the elderly. Our ward is huge, so we don't get to see everyone, but I visit at least seven elderly people on a regular basis.
* She needed a blessing for health issues. She has had awful health, but I haven't heard her ask me!
Anyway, I've done a lot for her, and also for my friend who is being divorced. Occasionally I have to back off, because it's bad for my mental health and depresses me.
We are also having to deal with a group of international hustlers who have flown to another country and are being looked after by missionaries there. They did this after living rent free in an old man's house in our ward - the old man is really nice, and these two were working, but they gave him nothing, and kept complaining his home was too cold.
I attend ward council meetings every two weeks and other stuff too. I don't think some members know how full our hands are.
Advice please. I do try and set some boundaries and back off some thing when they get too heavy, but I also try not to abandon people. It is hard to keep that balance.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=9273
Well, that's still grinding on. And it's grinding me down. Only last night I got a forwarded email from someone wanting to resign, complaining no one had been helping him. I can think of at least twelve members who have helped him in some way.
She was also complaining no one had phoned her. Unfortunately, this is true, but she did list five members who have. I should have. I also should have visited her, but I don't have a car, and she lives in an isolated part of the ward. She has had an awful time.
* The church profits off "Sin City". I want to point out that LDS did not start off Las Vegas' gambling interests. As far as I know, LDS aren't a major factor in the whole thing.
* The temples are too expensive. I'm not unsympathetic to this.
* The church is male dominated. Yes it is.
* The church doesn't look after the elderly. Our ward is huge, so we don't get to see everyone, but I visit at least seven elderly people on a regular basis.
* She needed a blessing for health issues. She has had awful health, but I haven't heard her ask me!
Anyway, I've done a lot for her, and also for my friend who is being divorced. Occasionally I have to back off, because it's bad for my mental health and depresses me.
We are also having to deal with a group of international hustlers who have flown to another country and are being looked after by missionaries there. They did this after living rent free in an old man's house in our ward - the old man is really nice, and these two were working, but they gave him nothing, and kept complaining his home was too cold.

I attend ward council meetings every two weeks and other stuff too. I don't think some members know how full our hands are.
Advice please. I do try and set some boundaries and back off some thing when they get too heavy, but I also try not to abandon people. It is hard to keep that balance.