That is a tough one. My step-grandmother died last year (great lady), and for the first time that I could recall, hearing the platitudes about her and the next life caused a lot of grief and loneliness that I did not expect.DoubtingTom wrote: ↑02 Nov 2018, 12:51I love this perspective. Thank you!! Yes, I guess I struggled for a while with some of those existential issues and sometimes still do, but no longer feel the need to satisfy them with religious explanations. I am content and at peace (or at least striving to become so) with the possibility that when I die, the lights may simply go out. If I’m wrong, what a wonderful surprise!
I quoted her as "returning to the God who gave her life" a lot - even if it isn't the literal truth (I don't know what my beliefs are in this area), it's what I would want to think happened - that she exists elsewhere - and it provided concealment that I may not be socially acceptable by not believing in a next life.
That's my .02 cents - take it for what it is:)