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Re: I Came Out To My Wife

Posted: 24 Sep 2016, 22:41
by Old-Timer
Consider this, Shawn:

Does your wife think you didn't take a position?

You gave it to her. If she thinks you took a position, you took a position.

It's like the wise saying:
If someone says you hurt them, you don't get to decide you didn't.
Having said that, I appreciate your last comment. You are a good person at heart. Don't let your frustration cause you to lose that.

Re: I Came Out To My Wife

Posted: 25 Sep 2016, 13:37
by amateurparent
Shawn wrote:

"Thanks for your thoughts, AP. But can I influence my family without manipulating them?"
That is an excellent question. After 31 years, I still cannot influence DH to fold towels in a way that I find acceptable. We just agree that he doesn't fold towels .. Or fitted sheets.

Seriously, IMHO, all I think you can do is state what you would like to see happen. The other partner can consider that, and say yes or no. Both partners can do that with respect and love.

Seeing my DH leave the church would make my life so much easier in so many ways. There is only one problem. It would be like tearing his very heart and soul away from his body. I would respect him less if he did not stand his ground and set limits on what he is willing to do for me. I want a free-will partner .. Not just a reflection of myself.