I have questions/concerns about the checklist for exaltation that is in Gospel Principles. I’m sure there are other threads about this but I guess I’m too lazy and depressed to look for them. I feel physically sick when I read this checklist. I feel hopeless also. I’m trying to understand who God really is and I struggle with the LDS view of Him. I was baptized in my 20’s and graduated from BYU. At BYU we were mostly taught that God will hold us accountable for everything we do or don’t do. I didn’t know what grace was until I left Utah and learned about it from other Christian religions. Is God the kind of God that requires a list like this to return to Him? Is He the kind of God who looks more at how a person loves and treats others than at ordinances and a list of commandments that seems never ending? Some of my concerns:Requirements for Exaltation - Gospel Principals Manual
The time to fulfill the requirements for exaltation is now (see Alma
34:32–34). President Joseph Fielding Smith said, “In order to obtain
the exaltation we must accept the gospel and all its covenants; and
take upon us the obligations which the Lord has offered; and walk
in the light and the understanding of the truth; and ‘live by every
word that proceedeth forth from the mouth of God’ ” (Doctrines of
To be exalted, we first must place our faith in Jesus Christ and then
endure in that faith to the end of our lives. Our faith in Him must be
such that we repent of our sins and obey His commandments.
He commands us all to receive certain ordinances:
1. We must be baptized.
2. We must receive the laying on of hands to be confirmed a member
of the Church of Jesus Christ and to receive the gift of the
3. Brethren must receive the Melchizedek Priesthood and magnify
their callings in the priesthood.
4. We must receive the temple endowment.
5. We must be married for eternity, either in this life or in the next.
In addition to receiving the required ordinances, the Lord commands
all of us to:
1. Love God and our neighbors.
2. Keep the commandments.
3. Repent of our wrongdoings.
4. Search out our kindred dead and receive the saving ordinances
of the gospel for them.
5. Attend our Church meetings as regularly as possible so we can
renew our baptismal covenants by partaking of the sacrament.
6. Love our family members and strengthen them in the ways of
7. Have family and individual prayers every day.
8. Teach the gospel to others by word and example.
9. Study the scriptures.
10. Listen to and obey the inspired words of the prophets of the Lord.
Finally, each of us needs to receive the Holy Ghost and learn to follow
His direction in our individual lives.
1. God has required ordinances and performances that 99.999% of humanity will never have or know about in this life. Yet the manual states that we are placed here to see if we’ll obey God’s commandments. He teaches us what we need to know before coming to earth then we lose all memory of it and yet we’re still judged by how well we obey something we don’t remember. I’m a high school teacher. If I tested my students this way I’d be fired. Why does He require something that only a handful of people will ever have?
2. Christ is mentioned once at the beginning and that’s it. Other than that it’s all about works. I’m not against good works at all. But the atonement isn’t even referred to in the list. I guess it’s implied in #3 – repent.
3. Do only the brethren have to magnify their callings? What about women?
4. What if a member receives all the ordinances but decides to serve outside of the church instead of in the church? So, some of the checklist isn’t done and God says I’m sorry but this wasn’t completed so you will be more comfortable in the terrestrial kingdom?
5. Is God really this complicated? Isn’t the Gospel the good news of Christ’s sacrifice for us? Why isn’t it more about love than rules and regulations? Does God truly require these things for us to return to Him?
6. What are the commandments? The 10 or the multitudes added on by the church that may be commandments or not?
7. Married in this life or the next. I’m single in my 40’s and never been married. I’ve not been working hard to find a person since moving away from BYU. In the manual it says that a single person must desire marriage and be working towards it in order to have an opportunity in the next life. It’s so degrading to hear that singles (who don’t do their best to find a mate on earth) will be servants to exalted beings who have been so much more valiant.
Ugh. I just want to feel accepted by God and honestly I’ve never felt accepted by Him. Strange that I feel His presence more in my life since I stopped going to church. What does that mean?