Gender roles are different.
Last week the sharing time instructor had the family as a puzzle with descriptions of the different family roles to be filled to complete the puzzle. The roles were very gender based but I kinda laughed it off because it seemed like something she got out of a sharing time helps book (not officially from the church but such a time saver).
Just yesterday we learned the next verse in the song we are singing. It was about gender roles and I'm not happy.
Couple of points:1. Our Father has a family. It’s me!
It’s you, all others too: we are His children.
He sent each one of us to earth, through birth,
To live and learn here in fam’lies.
2. A father’s place is to preside, provide,
To love and teach the gospel to his children.
A father leads in fam’ly prayer to share
Their love for Father in Heaven.
3. A mother’s purpose is to care, prepare,
To nurture and to strengthen all her children.
She teaches children to obey, to pray,
To love and serve in the fam’ly.
4. I’ll love and serve my family and be
A good example to each fam’ly member.
And when I am a mom or dad, so glad,
I’ll help my fam’ly remember:
God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—
This is how He shares His love, for the fam’ly is of God.
1) Yes, this mimics some of the language used in the Proclamation but gone are the references to "primary responsibilities" "Equal partners" and "individual adaptation" that are used as qualifiers.
2) It says "A father's place" and "a mother's purpose" – Could you imagine how blatantly sexist this would be if it said “a mother’s place”?
3) It says “And when I am a mom or dad, so glad, I’ll help my fam’ly remember: God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—.“ According to the song, what God “wants us to be” is sooo gender limited and specific.
I worry about my children absorbing these messages.
So my thought is to talk to the PP and tell her that I believe that we are stuck with the song but if we must have the song then it seems to me that some balance on the other side might be appropriate. Maybe disscussion of co-presiding, co-head of households, individual adaptation, and equal partnerships. Maybe even have a career woman come and speak to the primary about her career and how the choices that she has made blesses her family.
What do you think?