comfortable talking openly without judgement by either side. I know members in my circle of friends that feel the way your brother does.
My brother & sister have very open discussions. They are not in the church & maybe that is why we are so open.
You described your brother as follows:
To me, this is a great opening. My personal response would be: is there anything else you could imagine that's worse?
You can imagine what my list would be.
You can ask the question without being judgmental or argumentative.
IMO, the purpose of this life is to have experiences that we could not experience in our previous life, make inspired choices for ourselves,
live the consequences of those choices, make corrections along the way and answer to Jesus Christ when we're done. The other part of this
is to allow others the same privilege.
To make all this happen, I need friends that I talk to, bounce ideas off of, receive insight & wisdom (that I don't have). I wish that I could say
that prayer does that for me. It usually doesn't. For me, answers to prayer are rare or it comes through conversations with close friends.