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by Arrakeen
18 May 2021, 09:18
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Faithful Actions Yield Blessings, or Not, or Even Curses?
Replies: 12
Views: 314

Re: Faithful Actions Yield Blessings, or Not, or Even Curses?

A big part of my faith crisis was feeling like my mission was supposed to bring all these blessings, but instead made me miserable. I tried hard to be a diligent, obedient, successful missionary. My mission call letter promised that “more happiness than I had yet experienced would await me as I serv...
by Arrakeen
02 May 2021, 08:13
Forum: Support
Topic: Now what?
Replies: 7
Views: 219

Re: Now what?

It's all a crapshoot but I'll go out on a limb and say that it may come down to whether you end up in a metropolitan area where the church has a strong presence or whether you live in a rural area where the church is much smaller. I've found church in more rural areas to be more accepting of a wide...
by Arrakeen
01 May 2021, 10:01
Forum: Support
Topic: Now what?
Replies: 7
Views: 219

Re: Now what?

Just out of curiosity, are you moving outside the Corridor? Things are different out here and the farther away the more different. I will be moving to the Southeast. Don’t really know what the church is like over there, the area overall is very conservative but I don’t know if that means anything f...
by Arrakeen
29 Apr 2021, 17:28
Forum: Support
Topic: Now what?
Replies: 7
Views: 219

Now what?

Well, I finally graduated from BYU. Up to this point being able to finish up school was my main motivation for sticking with church. Now that that’s done I’m trying to figure out what kind of relationship I want with the church when I don’t actually have to do anything anymore. I’m conflicted, as I ...
by Arrakeen
29 Apr 2021, 17:23
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Excommunication Regarding Outspoken Sexual Matters
Replies: 17
Views: 672

Re: Excommunication Regarding Outspoken Sexual Matters

I also think it’s interesting that while the rhetoric often compares pornography to drug addiction, the way the two are treated is often different. I have seen people bring up that they are a recovering cocaine addict, and people react with support and view it as an unfortunate and difficult circums...
by Arrakeen
29 Apr 2021, 17:17
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Excommunication Regarding Outspoken Sexual Matters
Replies: 17
Views: 672

Re: Excommunication Regarding Outspoken Sexual Matters

The fact that such a large percentage of people view pornography kind of undermines the church’s narrative about how addictive or dangerous it is. For every person whose life is destroyed by it, there are hundreds who use it and still have normal, productive, happy lives. But the church likes to use...
by Arrakeen
22 Apr 2021, 20:43
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Excommunication Regarding Outspoken Sexual Matters
Replies: 17
Views: 672

Re: Excommunication Regarding Outspoken Sexual Matters

This is the first excommunication of someone I had heard of before. I actually found a lot of her articles helpful at the start of my faith crisis and actually reached out to her practice at one point for some mental health/faith crisis recommendations around the same time I joined this site. Person...
by Arrakeen
14 Apr 2021, 14:46
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Richard's Rohr's 3 Stages
Replies: 10
Views: 1265

Re: Richard's Rohr's 3 Stages

I’m solidly in the “deconstruction” stage, and have yet to see if I’ll ever make it to the reconstruction stage (though I have mostly moved past the angry phase). The church does seem to try hard to keep people away from deconstruction. And once you’re there, they have no help for getting you to rec...
by Arrakeen
06 Apr 2021, 13:00
Forum: Support
Topic: lazy and lax - April 2021
Replies: 29
Views: 2750

Re: lazy and lax - April 2021

The first person I heard from after this talk was one of my 20-something kids, a sincere and hard-working person who was devastated by a faith crisis. The gist of her conclusion: I guess I made the right decision to leave. There isn’t a place for me in the Church. This is something I'm still dealin...
by Arrakeen
28 Mar 2021, 07:15
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Conference coming up
Replies: 31
Views: 1472

Re: Conference coming up

maybe even getting more modern with the official translation we use for the Bible. This would be huge. But, I don't think it will happen soon, especially since the Book of Mormon uses all the King James language. Maybe a new modern translation of both? And then we could also drop the old school "pr...