https://wheatandtares.org/2019/05/21/sh ... -identity/
It's interesting but what caught my eye was one of the comments.
It made me reflect on how men behave in the Church (and I have to say the "self-deprecating goofiness" description hit a little close to home.) I've known a FEW men that I would describe that way. I wondered if the description struck a chord with anyone or is it an overgeneralization?My place of employment (a college) recently hired a new VP. I knew nothing about the guy. He presented the usual VP report at in-service before semester started. This was my first experience with him. I began picking up on a certain vibe…..surely this guy had to be Mormon! My co-worker, never a Mormon herself, but interested in Mormon culture insofar as her place in the community allowed her to befriend and interact with a lot of the local Mormons, leaned over to me and said, “He’s a Mormon.” She confirmed what I suspected.
What was it that gave him away?
A certain emasculated self-deprecating goofiness. Having been a Mormon all my life until I turned 37, at which point I began my departure
Walking back to our offices afterwards, the same co-worker (also the faculty sponsor for the college Gay Straight Alliance) said, “The VP acts in the way that many Mormon men act: goofy but harmless. It is strange….for a church that has its well-known position against LGBT issues, many of the Mormon men I have met are strangely effeminate.”
It is never a good idea to generalize, but the Mormon worldview and the culture that developed out of it has actually altered behavioral habits, such as verbal patterns and inflection of speech, body language, etc. I recognize these when I see them, even though I grew up far outside the Mormon Corridor, just about as far as one can be without leaving the borders of the USA. The Saints I grew up among did not carry these behaviors. We were a small minority. But in the late 80s Mormons from Utah flooded into our small ward, almost doubling its size. Then I began to see it.
My never-Mormon co-worker (she went to school in MA) has had enough interaction with Mormons to see it, too.