Sister Eubanks' talk was leaning towards missionary work, but I took the topic more in the direction as "principles that might help you be a better person that others may or may not see" - it had a distinctly "You Do You" Vibe.
I pulled together 5 principles with quotes from the talks and broke the sisters into partnerships/trios (we only had 12 sisters attending) to discuss. I included these questions for each of the groups:
- What does this mean to you? What does it make you think about?
- How does this understanding change your actions?
- When are you going to implement these actions?
- What do you want to share with the rest of the sisters?
Righteousness - “Being righteous doesn’t mean being perfect or never making mistakes. It means developing an inner connection with God, repenting of our sins and mistakes, and freely helping others.”
Articulateness - "Tell them why you believe, what it feels like, if you ever doubted, how you got through it, and what Jesus Christ means to you."
We actually spent a lot of time talking about identifying what to say and sometimes not saying anything at all, actually.
Distinct & Different - "Can you bear being distinct and different?"
At first I sloughed off this question, but I keep coming around to it. The older I get, the more I think we assume that we are more of a homogenous group then we really are. People seem to be very diverse, but very scared of being diverse at the same time.
Happy - “Will your happiness in spite of your trials draw others who are good and noble and who need your friendship?”
Ministering to Others - "As we seek the guidance of the Spirit and trust the Lord, we will be placed in situations and circumstances where we can act and bless—in other words, minister. There may be other times when we recognize a need but feel inadequate to respond, assuming that what we have to offer is insufficient."
I got called a "Molly Mormon" by one of our sharp older sisters. It boggles the mind.
2 of the unique sisters in our branch had gotten the topic of being "different and distinct" which fits either of them like perfectly sized gloves. Somehow the conversation got onto being weird and old (they are in their 70's) - and I quipped that they were giving me an example to look up to.
Visibly startled/surprised/shocked (it's hard to tell) Sister A said something like, "No you're not - you're a Molly Mormon, I've watched you and figured that out". Sister B interjected with camaderie, "No, she's like us - she's our kind of weird."
I know how Sister A arrived at that conclusion (I checked the check boxes and don't have obvious issues that would draw attention to my deviance). I just find it both hilarious (I may follow the letter of the Molly Mormonism [except for the cooking/baking thing] but yeah, not one) and flattering (it means my concealment is working). My husband and my mom have also been let in and appreciate the joke:)