I think the church leaders absolutely teach that men need to be exactly what men tend to be in the church. Watch any conference talk and that is what most men tend to copy. Goofy humor, soft spoken, emotional. I do not even think those things are bad. They are good qualities for some men. My problem is in the church we tend to elevate those qualities above say the opposite. Tough, resilient someone with a hard edge is more belittled.DarkJedi wrote: ↑09 Jun 2019, 06:59I think this is one of those cases where we need to be careful to distinguish between what "the church teaches" and what people in the church teach. Just saying.Gerald wrote: ↑09 Jun 2019, 06:33I hadn't thought about this but I think I have to agree. I live in a ward (and have lived in wards) with a number of men "rough around the edges." Their discomfort in Sunday School and Priesthood meetings is often palpable. I can see why some men may have a hard time connecting with the Church when leaders tend towards the "warm-nurturing" end of the spectrum. Our bishopric is composed of two men who definitely fit that Mormon stereotype and one who is "rough around the edges." It's actually refreshing to have someone conduct meetings who is a bit out of the "Mormon" mold.I feel that the chruch disdains and estranges a man's man. Working class men that are rough around the edges are not accepted in Mormon culture.
Of course, I think men in general can struggle to connect with one another in any context.
Probably why I never fit in well. Not emotional at all. Distain hand wringing exercises about how we just could not exist without our wives. More of a mans man who loves women and think they are just great.
I sometimes wonder what those early pioneer men and even women would think about todays man in the church? Being emotional and touch feely did not get your wagon out of the mud.