Good job, Reuben. Thanks for doing this.Reuben wrote: ↑24 Apr 2018, 10:03I'm running this poll at NOM for comparison. (Feel free to vote both places if you have accounts.) I'm really curious about what I'll find.
The poll is inspired by a few things:
- Starting to study secular Buddhism
- Wondering why disaffected members resign, and why they often report such a difference in their well-being when they do
- Discovering that trying out labels for my beliefs (e.g. "Christian agnostic") seemed to lift an emotional burden
- Realizing that keeping the identity label "Mormon" causes me to expect things that are unrealistic, which causes sorrow (but not unto resignation)
- Realizing how far-reaching the effects of all of my identity labels are, and how many of them I have (e.g. husband, father, sibling, Mormon, computer scientist, statistician, American, etc., etc.)
I mostly think my joy and sorrow is divorced from my tribe being what it is.
The mormon church is what it is. I am who I am.
I set that aside as one observation, then I seek joy and reduce suffering. That is another compartment of my life.
I have felt sorrow as a mormon. I have felt joy in non-mormon life choices. I have felt many joyous mormon experiences. I have had much sorrow with nothing to do with my religion.
I imagine if I was a devout buddhist...I'd have the exact same amount of joy and sadness in my life because of my inner struggles. It is how I use the religion that matters to me. Life isn't all about religion. I am striving to put church into perspective in my life...god and happiness go way beyond church and religion for me. But mormonism works too. I seem to be fine with it.
Thanks for starting a good thread.