On the personal side: (I checked the anonymous box)
I figured this one will be frequently asked and is probably redundant, but I went ahead anyway:With all of the folklore and culture surrounding young marriage within the church (notably being "a menace to society" for being 27 and single), I sometimes feel like a second-class citizen within the church because I'm 25 and still single. I recognize that's still on the young side (at least by non -LDS standards), but when most of my friends I made at BYU are married while I'm still single, I almost feel like a failure at times because it simply hasn't worked out for me yet. I feel pressure from a few different angles, ranging from living up to my older siblings getting married at age 23-24 to families I met on my mission to well-meaning but ham-handed talks on marriage to a sealer on one occasion giving me a hard time for still being single (it was in jest, but it still bothered me a little). How can I better accept my current marital status and learn to overcome these perceptions? How can I deal with sources of pressure and distress over my singleness?
I'm currently browsing through some of the already-asked questions and I've come across some interesting ones.What is the process of calling new Apostles?
This one is pretty heavy:
Not just men struggle with sexualityWhy do we use the word "worthiness" when discussing who has broken or kept their covenants in order to righteously partake of the sacrament or temple attendance? People who are unable to take the sacrament but who are trying to return to their covenants are usually struggling to overcome shame and feelings of low self-worth. Many misconstrue being called "unworthy" as an evaluation of their personal worth, instead of their standing in regards to God's laws.
There are quite a few questions in there about SSA. I wonder how that will be handled with Oaks on the panel...I am a young woman who has struggled with sexual addiction for more than half my life. I have done everything I know to do to repent and forsake my sin, but I still struggle. I have improved in many ways, but every so often I falter. This thing in my life has caused many emotional, mental, and physical problems for me, including the feeling of being unable to date and marry because I feel like I can't trust myself. What is the best way I can finally let go of this last bit of sin that I am unintentionally hanging onto and completely repent once and for all? I am seeing my bishop, going to therapy, reading my scriptures, general conference talks, and praying. My family knows my struggles and help me all they can. But I feel like this last part is up to me and the Savior, but I don't know what to actually do or say. I just want this done and healed. I'm ready, yet afraid. What council would you give to me?
This one also throws in women and the priesthood.
One on judgementalityWhat is the reasoning of the Church to consider gay marriage a sin? I’ve read The Family: A Proclamation to the World, and I can’t quite understand a reason as to why this is. I’ve asked church leaders and they usually point me to the Proclamation, but it doesn’t seem very clear about WHY it’s a sin. Also, why can’t women hold priesthood power? I’ve struggled to find answers to these two pieces of doctrine in particular. Thank you!
Asexuals are people tooAs the son of a single mother, an inactive sister and seen as a biker (Which by extension means I'm a trouble maker). I have to ask, why are some of the most judgmental people, people in the church? My mother has always been looked down upon since she's been divorced multiple times. Why are members of the church so judgmental?
I can relate to this oneI am asexual, which means that I am not attracted to any gender. Am I sinning if I am not actively looking for someone to marry? Is it all right to see myself as asexual? Do I need to repent?
Residual effect from priesthood ban (asker is in Madagascar)I have recently been trying to improve my personal studies, but I am the kind of person that has a really hard time sitting down and focusing, and so I often feel like it isn't all that effective, I end up getting distracted thinking about something else or even dozing off. And then when I can get focused I find that often times I am not getting as much as I could from the scripture, I feel like I am just reading it more than I am actually studying it, do you have any suggestions for ways I can get answers to questions through study, and to get more from my personal studies?
In Jesus the Christ, there is a mention that in the pre-mortal realm, there were those who were indecisive or rather wanted to follow Satan but because they wanted to obtain a body, they followed the plan. And just today some of my friends were discussing that African people might be those individuals due to the fact that majority of us are indecisive coupled with the fact that they notice that we are underprivileged. That conception really bothered me so, could you please give some light on that?