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To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 21 Apr 2017, 07:34
by SilentDawning
For people who lurk but don't post much, or at all, if you're comfortable doing so -- could you tell us what you get out of reading posts made on StayLDS? For me, reading without posting is like chewing without swallowing...but that's just me. I'd like to hear the perspective of people who like to read without posting.

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 21 Apr 2017, 09:13
by nibbler
SilentDawning wrote:
21 Apr 2017, 07:34
...like chewing without swallowing...
Which can be a good idea if you're chewing gum, tobacco, or broccoli. :thumbup:

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 22 Apr 2017, 00:52
by unsure
Hey, there is nothing wrong with broccoli!

I guess I'm considered a lurker at this point. I've got accounts on forum that are 10 years old that I visit on a weekly if not almost daily basis and have <500 posts. Unlike others, my online persona is no different than the real me. I prefer to sit back and listen to/read the conversation than to actually participate. Many times I'll find myself starting to write a reply and then just hitting the back button or erasing it. I guess most of the time I feel it's really not all that important or necessary.

I like being able to read others opinions, whether or not they jive with my own, have my own thoughts challenged and see things in a different light. I don't necessarily need to be an active participant to receive all that. I know if everyone were like me there would be no forum. I'm grateful for those of you who do participate. :mrgreen: Kind of hypocritical, I know.

Sometimes just the affirmation that I'm not the only one who feels some way about a certain issue is all I need, again no participation required from me.

Edit: I actually have quite a few posts here considering my short amount of time and compared to my post counts on other forums.

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 23 Apr 2017, 17:29
by Willhewonder
I lurked for awhile, then joined. Then became absolutely giddy, posting wildly and probably offensively, so I stood down to reflect on my malfeasance. But I still lurk. Nowhere else do I see the kind of discussion of issues that helps me sort things out. Things get honestly discussed and it helps. I got giddy before, because I felt so liberated by the things I saw here that put to rest some of my concerns. I lurk now because I don't want to post foolishly or offensively.

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 25 Apr 2017, 16:19
by afterall
My life has been incredibly impacted by the sudden death of an immediate family member, health issues, work, extended family members, etc. since my last post. I still enjoy reading everyone's thoughts although I am not able to read very often. I especially enjoy hearing everyone's take on conference talks. Thank you to all of you who share your thoughts!

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 26 Apr 2017, 11:30
by Heber13
afterall wrote:
25 Apr 2017, 16:19
My life has been incredibly impacted by the sudden death of an immediate family member, health issues, work, extended family members, etc. since my last post.
Sorry to hear you've had such a rough stretch. {hugs}

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 26 Apr 2017, 12:50
by Orson
I am often very short on time and when I see a comment that essentially mirrors my own thoughts I don't feel a need to post.

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 29 Apr 2017, 20:13
by Proprioceptive
I only recently joined the site (within the last couple weeks) although I've been reading for almost 4 years. This site, along with some other life decisions, helped jump start my testimony... helped me reconcile my concerns with my very clearly cautious faith. As a matter of fact, I plan o introduce myself soon in the introductions area. What do I get from the forums while not responding? I get common ground where the more "liberal" of the Mormon community are able to safely share their own concerns, questions, disbelief, belief, and general curiosities without fear of retribution.

Why have I not contributed beyond the fact that I have only recently joined? Because I'm quite honestly intimated by some of the minds in here. It's a combination of my own limited knowledge of church history/doctrine/culture (even if I've been a member my whole life) and the fact that after a few stints of inactivity in my adult life I'm still navigating my way through my faith. Heck, I haven't even read the entire BoM yet.

All this said, I find comfort here whether I've had the need to contribute or not.

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 30 Apr 2017, 06:19
by LookingHard
Proprioceptive - welcome and we look forward to hearing from you.

Don't be intimidated. If you knew me personally you would have a hard time if you had to pick between me or Homer Simpson for a new friend. :lolno:

Re: To those of you who Lurk but don't post

Posted: 30 Apr 2017, 08:45
by Gerald
I think I must be somewhere in between. I post from time to time but lurk most of the time. I guess I post when I feel I can make a good contribution to the conversation or just feel strongly about the issue. But I can certainly accept that for some people, participation must include contributing as well as lurking. Different strokes.....