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The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 12:54
by Man in the Arena
I feel I need to also share a little about why I'm grateful for the church. Both my parents came from environments that would not have predicted success in life. Mom was abused in more ways than one and my dad endured a hateful mother and other issues that faced youth in the 1970's. The church saved them, gave them purpose, and taught them how to create an awesome family... something neither had before. Things weren't perfect and all the siblings in my family have parent issues, but being a parent myself I can see that the foundation for success that I have had in my life came from their faith in the gospel (also despite issues that temper with age, they truly are good people). I am grateful to a loving and forgiving heavenly father, because no one is perfect. I am grateful for awesome youth leaders who took precious time out of their lives to serve and helped mold me and give me a set of values to guide me throughout my life.

I am grateful for the emphasis on families in the church and feel very comfortable taking my kids to church, where they have leaders that know them and care about them. I am grateful for the weekly reminder to think about God that I get by going to church and the chance to serve when I can. Through the church, I met my wife. The temple is difficult for me, but the idea that families are forever is very comforting to me and rings true in the spiritual sense. I have a rock star marriage with an awesome, intelligent, beautiful, capable, and independent woman who I love with all my heart. She is my kindred spirit and I know that I'll be with her forever.

I may struggle with everything doctrinal within the church, but I am grateful for the church and do believe in a loving heavenly father and that Jesus is my savior and redeemer. It is nice to take time to say what is going right and what you do believe every now and then. Also, I felt guilty about my earlier rant about Joseph Smith's polygamy earlier, it's all how I feel, but probably a little too open for me.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 13:02
by Curt Sunshine
Thanks for posting this. It is important to recognize and acknowledge the positive things in our lives.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 13:24
by mom3
ManInTheArena - One of the reasons I bite my tongue at times and keep my distance in certain conversations isn't for my protection, but for courtesy and support of others. My husband (who is post Mo) and I have agreed since the beginning of his crisis to do this exactly for the reason you stated. We know 3 families personally who the church has been a life saver. No other answer for that. Does it make our church the one true. No, but it reminds us of the good and keeps us balanced. It does save souls. The rest is up to the next life.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 13:27
by Heber13
Man in the Arena wrote:I may struggle with everything doctrinal within the church, but I am grateful for the church and do believe in a loving heavenly father and that Jesus is my savior and redeemer.
Well said. I believe we can learn to struggle with doctrine or things at church in how the culture seems to rub us wrong, and yet recognize the good it brings in our lives.

And I think that gratitude and remembrance is helpful in us finding peace and maintaining perspective.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 14:25
by LookingHard
Having been a member for all of my life (I am in my 50's) and having seen much of the good that comes in so many people's lives was a big reason why I didn't leave the church altogether during my faith crisis. I have looked back a bit and realize the privilege/blessing it is for me to be at a point where I can knit pick at a few issues. I realize for many that their life has not had the blessings that mine has. Many of those blessings have come from parents being in the church and me being around caring others.

Thanks for the reminder.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 15:06
by NewLight
Thanks for sharing this -- there is absolutely no doubt there are many people in the church doing what they can to help others not only cope, but thrive. It is very important to remember that.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 01 Nov 2014, 16:44
by Curt Sunshine
It's also important to remember that many of our concerns are possible ONLY because of amazing aspects of Mormon theology that we take for granted in our desire for more.

Concerns about how little Heavenly Mother is addressed or understood? We only have that concern because she exists within our theology. The concern is a good, valid one - but it's ours only because it's ours.

Re: The Positive

Posted: 02 Nov 2014, 10:38
by Ann
Man in the Arena wrote:I feel I need to also share a little about why I'm grateful for the church. Both my parents came from environments that would not have predicted success in life. Mom was abused in more ways than one and my dad endured a hateful mother and other issues that faced youth in the 1970's. The church saved them, gave them purpose, and taught them how to create an awesome family... something neither had before. Things weren't perfect and all the siblings in my family have parent issues, but being a parent myself I can see that the foundation for success that I have had in my life came from their faith in the gospel (also despite issues that temper with age, they truly are good people). I am grateful to a loving and forgiving heavenly father, because no one is perfect. I am grateful for awesome youth leaders who took precious time out of their lives to serve and helped mold me and give me a set of values to guide me throughout my life.
Very similar to my experience. Thanks for sharing.