BlueFalconX250,BlueFalconX250 wrote:As for why it's hard: Because many members do not know or study their religion. They may read the scriptures, but they do not study the doctrine or gospel. They say and claim things as doctrine that are tradition but not true or right. It's exhausting to hear people talking about things they do not know. Many of the "beliefs" I hear professed on Sunday are not doctrine and/or may perpetuate some of the problems I have with the people and commonly held beliefs of the "church." I tend to think the teachings of the church is true, but the practice is where people fail. That makes it hard for me. That is not to mention the blind faith people have. I am an academic by profession and know the benefit in a healthy dose of skepticism. I believe people should study and find and learn, not hear from a pulpit and spew back as Truth. I StayLDS because I find it comforting to believe in a god and church helps me build a good relationship with him.
Welcome. I see that this is your first post, and I look forward to hearing your voice here as well.
I do want to comment on what you said, because I think it's important to get a handle on it. We've all been there to some degree or another. Since coming to StayLDS, I've been able to get to a much better position (for me) with regards to how I see other people in the Church. I've come to realize that it doesn't affect me if somebody else believes or practices differently from me. There are some things that people do and say that get under my skin, of course, but I think it's a great course of action not to project ourselves onto others and then get frustrated with them when they don't approach the Church/Gospel the way we would. After all, most every member of the Church could have written your last sentence.
Ultimately, our desire for Church members to stop being the way they are will go unfulfilled. So, then what? Do we extricate ourselves from the Church because of others? God forbid. I believe that people like us can slowly make an impact on the culture of the Church, but only if we are as willing to accept them as we hope they are to accept us.