Cadence, exactly where in this thread have I claimed the mainstream church believes the heterodox things I believe? I think the point of labeling them as personal and heterodox is to avoid that claim - and I often add, "if I had a chance to talk with them personally and explain what I mean," when talking about things I think most members believe that aren't quite orthodox. Often, it's just that they have never heard something expressed in "acceptable" terms by someone they respect as fully active and believing; some times, they don't agree, but, in those situations, they generally smile and let it pass.
For example, just this past Sunday in the HP lesson about the Atonement, I mentioned that I love to hear different interpretations of Biblical stories, including the Garden of Eden (since that topic had come up in the lesson). I then explained that my current favorite interpretation was that the story refers to the decisions we made in the pre-existence - and I mentioned the multiple similarities between the Garden narrative and the War in Heaven narrative. The lesson moved on without any discussion about my comment, largely because few if any of the people in the group had ever thought about it, didn't believe it or didn't care enough to argue, but I can make comments like that because they know, respect, trust and like me and my delivery method - and, after almost two years in the ward, they are used to it by now.
In that light, one thing I do whenever I move is blend in or make non-disputable comments for long enough to let people get to know me as an individual. I laugh with them, clean the building with them, etc. I even wear a white shirt and suit every week for the first few months. There is no way I would make some of the comments I make now in the first few weeks after starting to attend a new ward. That would be stupid, politically and socially - and I try hard not to be stupid at church.
I am confident I could share Elder Holland's quote about accepting people in the Church who don't interpret the Book of Mormon literally in the vast majority of wards and branches without causing heart attacks, if I had lived in them for any decent length of time - and it would help that, in this case, I would be quoting an apostle in doing so. A softly worded reference to an apostle helps a lot in situations like that. Of course, I've had 40 years of practice expressing heterodox opinions, so I've gotten pretty good at it by now.
I see through my glass, darkly - as I play my saxophone in harmony with the other instruments in God's orchestra. (h/t Elder Joseph Wirthlin)
Even if people view many things differently, the core Gospel principles (LOVE; belief in the unseen but hoped; self-reflective change; symbolic cleansing; striving to recognize the will of the divine; never giving up) are universal.
"For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong." H. L. Mencken