BINGO - that is exactly what I think. The parents are too civilized to show their contempt outwardly and are instead just cold and distant to us. The kids OTOH - have no such constraints.mercyngrace wrote:In the wards where the youth were terrors, the parents were cliquish, materialistic, judgmental of one another - inevitably un-righteously so, and marked by a lack of charity and compassion. They saw themselves as either herding lesser saints or being herded by lesser saints. Their lack of respect was contagious. If a ward has this kind of disunity, attending can be a living hell.
Our kids are not just sponges, sucking up every word we say and attitude we express, they are mirrors, reflecting our attitudes back to others.
I don't want to give the impression that the entire ward was like this. There are some genuinely caring individuals as well. It is also possible that those that treated us badly wouldn't have been quite as difficult if we were better at fitting into the mold. Not that I'm making excuses for them, but some people have difficulty learning to accept people that are different than them.
Yes - If I or someone I love were to be poisoned, I would press charges. But this decision is not without consequences. Some may be supportive of your decision to go to the police, others may not. Remember that several girls were involved – each with families, this has the potential to be very divisive in the ward. Like I said before, my primary responsibility is the safety of my family- but there are always repercussions.doug wrote:How about pressing charges? Sounds like a felony to me.