I have no problem referring folks to StayLDS. I love it here, and I really love you guys. This is still probably where my heart is...and I'm still on this path (at least for now...and I don't plan on changing).canadiangirl wrote:Where does he direct them now?Tom said, "Therefore while he appears to honestly appreciate the work going on here, he no longer directs people to these forums as a matter of course. And I believe his conclusion is in harmony with the philosophy and approach we take here, as we support people in their happiness, whatever direction that may lead them."
This statement worried me and I'm not sure why. I guess it scared me that maybe I wouldn't make it through this faith crisis and have to make a decision that would really rock my world and create distress among my family. URGGGh......
The only thing that's changed is that I don't hold StayLDS up as "the preferred" or "the" path anymore...and I try to provide disclaimers when I promote it....and it's only because I don't want to set people (or their spouses/families) up with unrealistic expectations. In my anecdotal experience....there are many friends of mine for whom this path couldn't work in the long run on integrity grounds alone. And so I've allowed that data to feed back into my evangelism, so to speak.
That said...I have no idea what the percentages are. But to me, it's important to not set people up for failure, or set family members up with unrealistic expectations about what the struggler should do ("Why can't you just be like John Dehlin?!?!)
I still love this place, and all of you. Not that that matters. I'm just one dude.