SamBee wrote: ↑
08 Nov 2019, 16:57
DarkJedi wrote: ↑
30 Oct 2019, 04:52
I tend to decide pretty early if I'm going to listen to a speaker or not, and it's very dependent on what they say and how they present themselves in the first minute or two. Honestly if the first line is something like "The bishop caught me in the hall last week even though I was trying to hide from him because I knew he was looking for speakers..." I tune out right then.
My red flags are:
* "I was asked to talk on..." - Sounds begrudging
* "The Bible/... Dictionary defines X as" - a good speech doesn't need that. Use your own words!
I also switch off often when they talk about families, marriage or children. I don't hate children, I actually quite like them up to a point, but I'm a single man so they aren't part of my own life at the moment, and I don't have much to do with them because of that. These talks also rub my nose in my failure to marry and have kids.
I also struggle with topics that are not applying to me. Nothing is more boring and loathful for me to listen to than talks on Temple attendance, temple stories, families can be together forever or even worse, social issues. I have endured them all over the years, tune out almost immediately. My family won't be together forever, I don't have a TR and only been once and I don't care about your social stances. Prideful talk and preaching to the choir doesn't help investigators and those who will never have all those great experiences that TBMs have.
I think sacrament meeting, in particular, should be taylored to people who are investigators, those who struggle and basic stories of Jesus Christ. No inside baseball talks, no terms that people outside of the community won't understand and absolutely no talk of social issues. Basics should be talked about in terms that even Senior Primary would understand.
As a country and a LDS community, we are woefully uninformed about Jesus Christ's ministry and time on the earth. I recently attended a Elder's Q meeting where the High Priest said that he never read the New Testament and he was in his 60's. He reads the Book of Mormon regularly and has read it cover to cover many times, but the Bible he just recently did. Amazing.. I don't think I would admit that in public but it helped with his message (I guess...).
I'm an Independent Mormon and it's okay.