DarkJedi wrote:FWIW, I have never been to a ward where the sacrament was not taken out to the foyer for late arrivers and others and I've never heard of any policy against that (except if the person wasn't there for the bread they shouldn't take the water).
Same here, until now, and we've traveled and moved A LOT.
When I asked the first time, I was told it was policy. I asked again a month or so later for a clarification and explained my situation, and was told that "all kids are like that, he'll learn" and again, policy.
Almost a year later, I talked with the bishop again and explained that my son had an official diagnosis and husband was going to be gone for 6 months. He said he would think about it.
The following Sunday was a 5th Sunday with a video presentation intended for ward councils with the Q12 and Aux leaders discussing how to keep the Sabbath holy, and QLC told a story of a young mom with a special needs child who was trying to stay in sacrament and left defeated and how if he were her bishop he would make sure the sacrament made it out to the hall to her.
I approached my Bishop afterwards and he put his hand up when he saw me coming and said, "I know, I know. We'll start doing it." (very annoyed)
2 more years and a new, more reasonable Bishop went by and it never happened. New Bishop cited stake policy.
One Sunday we had a crazy amount of visitors and the foyers were full of late comers. After the bread, Bishop asked for a show of hands of anyone who had not received the sacrament and someone came from the foyer and said they hadn't received it. Bishopric quickly counseled and my husband was helping with the sacrament and they told him 'just this once'.
It's frustrating that this unwritten rule became law and that 'law' superceded member's needs.
To reframe it bluntly, I was denied an ordinance for 6 months because I have a child with special needs.
New ward and my son is phenomenal in sacrament now, so this particular issue isn't a hurdle anymore. The bigger issue of unwritten rules being treated like law probably still is, but there's no specific conflict I have with it right now.
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