We may delay an ordinance but someone will eventually come along and steamroll all those ordinances through.LadyofRadiantJoy wrote: ↑24 Feb 2019, 15:47My issue is why the hell are we sealing people who got divorced just because they had kids together? I have had a visitation from the spirit of a family member who explicitly told me she didn't want to be sealed to her husband. I had to remind my family YET AGAIN, that the answer is no, don't do it, but we get all gung ho and just do all the sealings as if it doesn't matter when it clearly does. We're really good at brushing off people's feelings. Abusive parents? Oh it doesn't matter we will all be perfect when we're all exalted. Abusive spouse? Oh it doesn't matter endure to the end to keep the family together, we will all be perfect when we're all exalted. Spirit visitation that says NO? Oh, what if she changes her mind, what if you're being deceived, it will all work out in the Millenium anyway and we will all be perfect when we're exalted. UGH. We sure know how to take a beautiful doctrine and turn it into poison.
Family may know the true intentions and wishes of the deceased but what happens in two generations time when people in the know are themselves deceased? What happens in the year 2020 when someone in Billings, Montana (my random city is always Billings) that has never met a member of your family gets overly enthusiastic about all this genealogy and temple work that we're supposed to be doing and takes it upon themselves to finish all the ordinances in your family?
The later happened to me. DW entered lots and lots of info into FamilySearch, the day came when we wanted to take names to the temple. When we went to select a few names we found that someone a continent away sniped all our family ordinances.
We took "the hearts of the children shall turn to their fathers," turned it into a checklist, and now there's more emphasis placed on getting the ordinances done than on making any meaningful connection. Sure, some Joe Blow in Billings churned out the mandatory ordinances, everyone can sleep well tonight, but in the process it robbed our kids of an opportunity to do ordinances for people they're directly connected to. We'll do the ordinances for Joe Blow's family.
The hearts of eager beaver strangers shall turn to the checklists.