I just HAD to respond. Or I FELT I had to and succumbed to the temptation.
I have also been noticing a common path for faith crisis. TBM, shelf strained, shelf breaks, pain and disorientation, sometimes trying to put the shelf back up and others decide they need no shelf and are "out", digging a bit deeper for those that didn't just "jump out" and for those that dig deeper they either reach a place of contentment or leave. Even on this site in looking over the people that come and go I see something close to this. I do feel I am close to deciding I have "dug" enough and I can back off. I still want to learn more, but I have reached a point where there is too much to absorb (even with setting my podcast to 2.4x speed ). I have to start minimizing my time focusing on blogs, podcasts, books and focus on my relationships and my work - and just life."Polygamy is required in the celestial kingdom"? Maybe not, but it is for the part that I have been encouraged to seek. I have been encouraged to go to the temple and seek more than just the celestial kingdom.
"The only men who become Gods, even the Sons of God, are those who enter into polygamy," (Journal of Discourses, vol. 11, p. 269).
So if someone desires the "highest" form of being like God - where there is "eternal increase", then a prophet HAS said it is required. If you are OK to shoot for way below that then you can ignore polygamy. Why don't we just take it easy and make sure we make it into the Terrestrial kingdom.
The wording in so much of this seems to be picking words very carefully so that they make sense if you read them. But when I dig deeper it isn't so "tame". I makes me cry for the fruits of this "doctrine".
I will state my stance on this again. I am not in a place to tell God that he can't command polygamy, but every time I pray about it I feel it was a mistake made by man.
For me I have to use occam's razor on this topic, especially after reading the book that is negatively critiqued here. Rather than go through these mental contortions to make it "of God", I mark this up as "not from God" and focus my time on loving others (and just my ONE wife).
I found out who one of the authors of one of the very professional/logical sites critical of the church over the weekend. I had an exchange with him where he agreed that even though he occasionally adds stuff, but most days he does not even pay attention to "Mormon church" stuff". I must admit that I am actually glad to feel I am about to turn a page, but reminded not quite yet this AM, and certainly hope it brings more peace.