amateurparent, thanks for your post.
You gave some good advice about coupons. I had forgotten that my doctor gave me a discount card! Now I will use it.
Miracles Have Ceased So Just Take Your Pills
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Re: Miracles Have Ceased So Just Take Your Pills
YES!!!Roy wrote: "We LDS just have this added layer of doctrine and culture that seems to say that faithful LDS should be less distraught and troubled than non-members over the death of a loved one."
It has been a really long time since our kids died. And we function quite well in life. We decided early on that we had lost enough and we chose to focus on moving forward. But, that doesn't mean we forgot our deceased children.
DH and I have been very open about the fact that we still miss our children. We think it is healthy for people to know that. We don't want people thinking that we somehow bypassed grief because we are LDS. We don't want to set some unattainable standard. Rather than people appreciating that information, we get comments about our lack of faith. It has made us realize how deeply engrained in the culture is the belief that you will not grieve if you have a belief in the gospel.
I have no advance degrees in parenting. No national credentials. I am an amateur parent. I read, study, and learn all I can to be the best parent possible. Every time I think I have reached expert status with one child for one stage in their life, something changes and I am back to amateur status again. Now when I really mess up, I just apologize to my child, and explain that I am indeed an amateur .. I'm still learning how to do this right.