Re: Challenging discussion
Posted: 12 Jul 2020, 10:36
I have these hit and run conversations with my wife about the church. I have learned to be positive. The only thing that reminds her that I'm not really firing on all the church cylinders is the fact that I don't wear garments, don't pay tithing (something that benefits her financially, so I think part of her doesn't mind) and have only a piddly calling in the church.
I find it's best to be positive about the church as much as possible, supportive, and this lessens the "damage" so to speak. At least in my relationship. You mileage may vary. I am glad that you had your conversation however, and that "no one got hurt" from the sound of it.
One principle that I like to share is the multi-dimensional nature of marriage. The church is one aspect, and your activity therein, but there are other things that trigger love. I like the marriage builders philosophy found at the website by that name (if it still exists). Meeting the top 3 needs of your spouse can keep love alive and compensate somewhat for the lack of activity in the church that "withdraws" from the relationship.