I think DJ and Roy bring up excellent points about the role and responsibilities of a prophet. Also in the vein of the difficulty of quantifying the frequency or number of prophecies a prophet must expound, what happens when something used to be considered revealing doctrine, but the present-day church disavows it? For me, it's much easier to start from the premise that they're men, human, and in a difficult position. If they happen to say or do things that resonate with me, then in those moment *I* believe they were being prophetic, revelatory, etc. If they happen to say or do things that don't resonate with me, I try my best to focus on other things.
I view my membership in the church much like I view my citizenship: I don't agree with a lot of things the government bodies do, policies that politicians enact, even the activities of political parties I tend to align with disappoint me frequently. However, I don't want to become a citizen of another country. At least not yet
My main decision is to remain a US citizen, all other problems get worked out from that point of view. Similarly, my main religious decision is to remain LDS. All other problems get worked out from that point of view, and if others don't agree with my process of making that decision fit, then that's their issue, not mine. All decisions regarding friends, dating in AND out of the church, spouse, etc get worked out from that thought process so if someone can't handle it, regardless of their religious affiliation, I don't keep them very close. At the end of the day, I am the only constant in my life so I figure I better make the most of it, which includes taking responsibility for how I see, interpret, and live my life.
I think knowing what concerns you have is important, so I support you figuring out what bothers you and why. However, they're also *your* concerns, and much of what the organizational church says and does is out of your and our control. It's awful feeling disappointed, foolish, humiliated, lost, confused - all things that come with a faith or commitment crisis. Asking the church, its leaders, and the culture to change to make you feel better is not a wise road, in my opinion. It's difficult, but focusing on what we can individually control and contribute is a much more fruitful path. I wish you well on navigating your way through this.
It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live. -Dumbledore
Roll away your stone, I'll roll away mine. Together we can see what we will find. -Mumford & Sons