A Farewell & Thank You

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Re: A Farewell & Thank You

Post by Heber13 » 03 Oct 2016, 18:39

Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts and I hope you always feel welcome here and where ever you head towards. You've helped me. Thanks.
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Re: A Farewell & Thank You

Post by SilentDawning » 04 Oct 2016, 09:11

Best of luck -- don't be afraid to come back if you want to post more. And i hope you maintain some kind of cultural tie with the church and your membership. I have rarely seen the point of resigning although for some people it's the best thing.

Anyway, hope to see you again...

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Re: A Farewell & Thank You

Post by university » 11 Nov 2016, 19:51

Thank you all for your kind words :) I truly appreciated all your comments.

@amateurparent Thank you for the suggestion. I may very well check them out. Now that I've entered a new phase, I feel like I might need a little support from people who are also in "transition" and have been through the disassociating process. However, most the communities I've found have been very "ex-Mormon" in tone and don't appeal to my temperament. So thank you for the suggestion!

Currently, my ward's secretary keeps trying to contact me for tithing settlement. I haven't responded. I am trying not to resent the fact that they won't take a hint and stop. I don't feel comfortable meeting with a bishop I've never met with before to tell him "No, I haven't paid tithing in years and I don't want to now. I don't foresee myself paying it in the future." It's little situations like this where I don't know what to do and would like someone to bounce ideas off of.

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Re: A Farewell & Thank You

Post by DarkJedi » 12 Nov 2016, 06:15

Tithing settlement is not a "commandment" and is not mandatory. The secretary is just doing his job, although arguably more than he needs to. My best advice is to just tell him you're not going to make an appointment, especially if the guy isn't going to take the hint (he could have a career in telemarketing). Sometimes you just have to be blunt. If you do relent and make an appointment with the bishop you're likely in for a testimony/lecture (testiture?) about why you should pay tithing.
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Re: A Farewell & Thank You

Post by amateurparent » 12 Nov 2016, 09:14


Keep looking at transition groups .. there are so many. Some are very "ex-mo" and antagonist. Other groups are more nuanced.

I found a local group that is accepting of my faith journey that includes a devout husband. We have done two camping trips with the group and a number of parties. It has felt like the support of a ward without judgement. For me, that support has been helpful.

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