EQ Exclusive Activities

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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by amateurparent » 24 Jul 2016, 17:59


You ask some excellent questions.

Two years ago, I approached our bishop (since released) about having a 16 yo LDS boy attend. He wasn't attending his own ward due to bullying issues. His ward youth and YM leaders had been hateful to him as he came across as "gay". He loved the LDS church and wanted to be included. I didn't tell the bishop that we all suspected the boy was gay .. But he just hadn't figured it out yet. (He quit attending church at age 11 and didn't figure out he was gay until age 17.)

Our bishop was okay with him attending until I mentioned that his family was active. Suddenly, the bishop was fixated on this boy's need to attend His ward with His family. Bishop was unwilling to have a young man attend a different ward and stake.

I think back to that situation and it still makes me really sad.
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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by Roy » 08 May 2017, 09:46

Our EQ is planning an EQ only activity.

My concern was two fold: 1) How to advertise to guys that might not be regulars and 2) How to have an EQ only activity that does not turn people off and hurt people's feelings.

The EQP said that he would make flyers and ask people to bring friends. I suggested that we may want to say something on the flyer about men only - brotherly bonding etc. If we do not say anything about the men only aspect then some may misunderstand and bring the whole family. If we say Elders only then that may seem to exclude non-members or prospective Elders. Best to just say men only and if we get some high priests in attendance - no worries.
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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by Ashley » 08 May 2017, 09:59

For a ward to be so bothered by the age of men in attendance to an activity is bothersome. Especially if they know he already might feel excluded to some degree. This situation sucks and sorry you and your husband has to deal with it!

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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by nibbler » 08 May 2017, 10:15


I think there's an Aaronic Priesthood Commemoration Campout coming up in many stakes/wards this weekend. Bros only.
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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by SamBee » 10 May 2017, 12:41

The HPs are welcome to all our EQ activities here. Thank God.
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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by NightSG » 11 May 2017, 08:25

amateurparent wrote:
20 Jul 2016, 20:48
And Steve doesn't qualify because he is a HP.
Tell them HPs only snore in Sacrament Meeting.

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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by NightSG » 11 May 2017, 09:29

Roy wrote:
24 Jul 2016, 10:07
One thing that I have noticed is that these other churches seem so open and willing to have us join in their activities. Yes, as non-members they may be looking at us as potential converts but it certainly doesn't come across that way.
Largely because they're not just viewing you as potential converts, but as friends and neighbors.

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Re: EQ Exclusive Activities

Post by DarkJedi » 11 May 2017, 10:07

NightSG wrote:
11 May 2017, 08:25
amateurparent wrote:
20 Jul 2016, 20:48
And Steve doesn't qualify because he is a HP.
Tell them HPs only snore in Sacrament Meeting.
But that wouldn't be true - they regularly snore in HPG as well. After all, "church sleep is among the healthiest of all sleeps."
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