Unwinding the WoW way

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SilentDawning
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Unwinding the WoW way

Post by SilentDawning » 03 Apr 2016, 12:56

I've been experiencing a pattern for the last year. It seems as you get older and your means/assets/responsibilities grow, and as your body ages, the things you get "hit" with in life tend to be bigger, harder to deal with, and sometimes, more permanent than in your earlier life. I am sure none of us are exempt from this.

And that leads to "stress", or an unsettled feeling like you are not at peace. Sometimes the challenges are such that you are tried for a while, and then the situation passes, but there are lingering feelings of angst about it that impair inner peace. I have dealt with it a couple times, Once, I had a couple painkillers left over from a dental operation, and that helped me just forget everything, get a good nights sleep and wake up refreshed and ready to tackle the world. But that is not a permanent solution. There is no way I want to make chemicals part of my life's coping strategy. I have often been tempted to go out and drink alcohol. As Dean Martin said, he "feels sorry for people who don't drink because they wake up in the morning and that's the best they feel all day". But of course, I haven't had a drink in over 35 years, dating to a year before my baptism and I have not intention of blowing a 3 decade record. Nor do I have the intention to break my wife and children's hearts by breaking the WoW.

Exercise is not attractive to me for relieving the lack of peace...anyone have any suggestions on how to get back to Peace Avenue without using substances, or exercise or other means that are physical in nature? How do you relieve stress and angst when life hits you in bad places?

Note: after writing this it occurred to me I might have written something like it before here. If so, feel free to ignore me. If not, I'm interested in your perspectives. My memory is blank.
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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by Minyan Man » 03 Apr 2016, 13:10

I am a big fan of exercise. I discovered the gym about 7 yrs ago.
I do the following things:
- treadmill.
- some weights.
- but mostly swim.
- lay in the sun (in summer).
- steam.
- and whirl pool.

Afterwards, I read & talk to people.
I'm not a sculptured god.
I feel relaxed, calm & it's something I do for myself.
My only regret is I wish I would of done it when my children were young.
When the Grandkids come over, they will go with me.

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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by Roadrunner » 03 Apr 2016, 15:46

As a believer in the effectiveness of exercise I'd encourage that as an excellent way to help find peace, perhaps a less vigorous exercise? Maybe hiking or walking or yoga? Not sure where you live and how easymit is to leave civilization, but seeing the beauty of nature brings me tremendous peace.

For a long time I loved astronomy and bought a 12 inch telescope and dabbled in astrophotography. Very relaxing hobby but about as impractical as you can get - cold, dark nights far from mankind make for the best astronomy. Makes it hard to gdt up for work the next day.

Another suggestion that comes to mind is meditation or biofeedback.

Maybe a pet?

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Post by amateurparent » 03 Apr 2016, 17:37

Exercise is number one.

Writing is a close second. Write letters to yourself. You will find yourself writing about stuff that you didn't even know were issues.
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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by Minyan Man » 03 Apr 2016, 18:19

Getting a pet is a good idea too.
We got a Golden Retriever & she was wonderful.
They are more human than dog.
She passed this past Sept (13 yrs old)

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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by LookingHard » 03 Apr 2016, 19:14

I have found that I really enjoy just walking and listening to various science podcasts has relaxed me quite a bit. Walking didn't used to do it for me - too slow - not enough exertion for the amount of time. But now that some of the kids have moved out and I am a bit less busy.

But I hear you. When you start estimating the number of years you probably have left and you think back that many years ago and it seems like yesterday, it is sobering.

I have "try meditating/mindfulness" on my list of things to do.

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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by Shades of Grey » 03 Apr 2016, 22:11

In keeping with your non-excersise request, the hands down best 21st century solution is an "Isolation Tank" session.. Also known as a "Float Tank" . Most major cities have several establishments that operate similar to tanning salons (albeit a bit more expensive). Expect about 50$ per one hour float, but it is the best money you will ever spend on mental health (clearing your mind/unwinding).
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Post by DarkJedi » 04 Apr 2016, 03:22

I'm a walker, too. My wife and I try to go walking every day, and while I enjoy that time to talk and spend time with her, that's not the walking that does it for me. Walking by myself (or with the dog) is something I enjoy, and I often find peace in doing so. It works if it's just around the neighborhood, it seems to work better if I can get out in nature a little.
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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by SilentDawning » 04 Apr 2016, 08:53

I'm favoring the writing concept. Also, there is a park not far from where I live that no one knows about. It is beautiful. I held an event there, but it was fraught with problems due to government interference that sort of cankered the beauty for me when I go there. If I could get past that memory, it would be a good place to just sit and think without any distractions and get at peace with nature.

Maybe start slow with some laps in the pool when the weather gets better, or do some leg raises with weights at a very basic level...

Thanks for the suggestions everyone.

Sd
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Re: Unwinding the WoW way

Post by Sheldon » 06 Apr 2016, 16:05

Surfing. Even when the waves are small or junky, just being out in the water relives lots of stress.

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