You're better off saying yes to the questions that involve testimony, relying on the "shades of belief" concept -- that the questions which say "do you believe" can be interpreted at multiple levels.wonderingcurrent wrote:Personally, this is why I say, "Yes" to the questions. Honestly it isn't the questions on the TR interview that bug me. Its the assumption that everything is doctrine and of the Lord. That excuse was used up at School on more then one occasion for things to happen. (I went to BYU-Idaho, have graduated), It just doesn't make sense to me. No not everything is of the Lord in a Church, in which the Lord gives men agency to do as they see fit so long as they follow certain commandments.
If you think about it, the Church has little claim on us except the embarrassment of not being able to participate in certain ordinances, as well as the cultural stigma. The general approach of "I have a testimony but I have commitment problems due to [insert near unsolveable problem here]" held me in good stead many years ago. And after I got my commitment back, it didn't limit me one bit in terms of cultural and ordinance-related priviledges when my commitment finally caught up with my beliefs at the time.
They will quote scripture at you -- whatever applies, and some of the hard nosed leaders will threaten you with losing your salvation (that has happened to me twice, once in a general statement at Stake Conference, and once to my face from a HC in a meeting), or snub you, but that is the price of the freedom to progress and grow at your own pace. You need to have answers to the scripture-quoting that are personal, not rebuttals using our scriptures lest you be labelled apostate.
At least I know that every time I served in an official capacity after my commitment crisis ended, I did so with integrity and authenticity -- and only when I had the commitment and belief to be real. And when I wasn't full of commitment, I was also full of integrity in acting at a level that matched my current state of mind.
And I continue with that today.