Dande I don't think we really disagree either.
I believe if you were to take two humans, with identical external influences (biological makeup, past experiences, etc), and present them with the exact same choice in the exact same situation, they will always make the same "choice". You in your position would not have made any other choice.
Others did make different choices, though. Some chose to drive faster, some chose to "wait it out" (would have been a long night), and some chose just not to go anywhere. There may have been other choices, those are just options that came to my ind that I actually heard reported. I did consider staying put, but I clearly wouldn't have made a different decision this time because I didn't. Next time, given the added experience of this time, I may. (I now have a change of clothes in my trunk.)
I completely agree... and think this is why many denominations disagree; attempting to reconcile the justice of God, with His omnipotence and beingg the primordial cause. But maybe we're all just looking at different perspectives of the same thing. I think Joseph Smith came up with (or had revealed to him) the concept of "intelligences" to account for this (D&C 93:27-38); That there is an uncreated part of us, responsible for our agency, that God did not create nor is ultimately responsible for.
This is good because I've been reading a lot of what Givens has written about this. (Just finished People of Paradox and now reading Wrestling the Angel - both books talk about this exact topic among others.) It's actually very fascinating. There apparently was some religious thought both ways on the topic, but the "dominant" religions in the Palmyra area (Methodism and Presbyterianism) both leaned more toward Calvinist/Wesleyan ideas and are quite firm in their views of no pre-earth existence and of predestination. This is what Joseph was up against, especially since these views are also common among other Protestants because of the influence of Calvin and Wesley. And I think Joseph's view on the subject was much more liberal than the modern church. (I've said this before here: I'm not sure Joseph would recognize the modern church.) I don't think we really know much about pre-earth and it's hard to wrap my mind around eternal existence as some nebulous entity, but it is sometimes fun to think about. This is also all tied into the "all things are matter" teachings by Joseph, asserting that spirit matter is just more refined. All of it could be, who knows?
In the absence of knowledge or faith there is always hope.
Once there was a gentile...who came before Hillel. He said "Convert me on the condition that you teach me the whole Torah while I stand on one foot." Hillel converted him, saying: That which is despicable to you, do not do to your fellow, this is the whole Torah, and the rest is commentary, go and learn it."