The thought occurs to me to "render unto Caesar, that which is Caesar's". For those of us that wish to continue within the active Mormon community there are some minimum standards to meet. In addition, sometimes what you say can be less important than how you say it.
Baptising my children is important to me in being an honored part of an important rite of passage. This is a church ordinance and the church has every right to determine who can and cannot perform it. I have tried to be prudent (not fake or dishonest but not unfiltered either) in the things I say and do in order to maximize the chance of being able to meaningfully participate in such events.
The church has authority over my church actions and church behavior (again at least as far as setting minimum standards goes).
Church (both as an organization and as a concept) can easily overreach and assume more authority over your personal life than it has any right to.
Part of my process to StayLDS has been to identify between my personal responsibility to prayfully chart (together with DW as equal partners) my own life course on one hand and those areas of church authority on the other. Once I identify the "demarcation line" that I feel comfortable with it can be important develop and maintain healthy boundaries in this area.
This is probably not what Elder Oaks meant in his talk. I claim the right to interpret anything he or anybody else says to determine applicability to my life and my circumstances.
To bring this full circle, I do not broadcast that I might reject parts of Elder Oak's talk in SM or EQ. To do so might get me in trouble with local leadership. I quetly take charge of my life decisions. I am not in revolt. I am just a person trying to navigate life's competing relationships, demands, and responsibilites the best way that I know how.