I think it is a personal faith question. Where is your faith on answers to these questions? What feels right to you? What is in line with scriptures and prophets of the past?
There are no clear answers. Because there are things that are interpreted in the church, by prophets, apostles, GAs, PR, CES, correlation committees, and the general membership (traditions), and yet...in my mind...all those interpretations are up for debate, study, challenge and disagreement. It HAS to be. My God wants me to wrestle and show where my heart is...not just follow a manual or be a lemming.
Take this teaching from the Church, from New Testament Study Guide:
Made of the seed (v. 3) Descendant
Fruit (v. 13) Converts to the gospel
Barbarians (v. 14) Foreigners
Wrath (v. 18) Punishment, anger
Maliciousness (v. 29) Desire to hurt another
Malignity (v. 29) Hatefulness
Whisperers (v. 29) Gossipers, slanderers
Without natural affection (v. 31) Unloving toward family and friends
Romans 1:24–32—“God Also Gave Them Up”
When people reject God, He “gives them up,” or delivers them to suffer the punishment for their sins. This abandonment does not mean that God does not love His children, but shows that they who are wicked abandon Him so He cannot help them. As Paul said, they choose to worship and serve the creature of sin, rather than the Creator (see Romans 1:25). The “uncleanness” and “vile affections” Paul referred to in verses 24–27 are sins of homosexuality and other sexual sins.
Romans chapter 1 says nothing about homosexuality. Yet...the church interprets it as a sin that Paul was referring to. Why? Where is that coming from? Who said that?
Actually...it seems to even contradict what the study guide gives above it in the study help for topics and terms:
Without natural affection = Unloving toward family and friends
The connection between that scripture and homosexuality is an interpretation that I am not sure where it came from and how correct (or incorrect) it is.
Why do they throw in things like "God cannot help them"? Where does that interpretation come from? It seems logical we have consequences of our actions, God won't rob us of those. But it feels more like people are trying to make sense of scriptures that were written by mortals over various time periods and meanings...and they are trying to make sense of it...and as they do...are revealing their personal views, cultural bias and prejudice, and the lessons they are trying to teach at the moment. It sounds like they are trying to reaffirm faithful obedient people there is an advantage to obedience, and there is no help if laws are violated. There are so many contradictions with other teachings of the Atonement or what Christ lived like.
The church even admits that we need greater light and knowledge on things, we don't know all things. Continuing revelation is necessary.
The paradox is that revelation can be mixed in with the cultural prejudices and doctrinal speculation...and ongoing revelations correct and adjust them over time as we learn more. So...the answer to your question is not that these categories are mutually exclusive...but somehow...all happening at once. Evil and Good intertwined together. Find the good, reject the evil. It is all in there.
So...I reject it as a church teaching that those scriptures are clearly talking about all situations of homosexuality in one broad brush. If that is what they want to teach...I reject that. It doesn't make sense to me. It is a stretch. It is a jump to unconnected things and generalizes the uniqueness of individual circumstances and all the exceptions to rules. But I know the church teaches it and others at church accept it unquestioned. They try to frame it in a way that can be expressed and taught.
But not me. Some things can't be framed so definitively. Is all divorce bad? No. Is all Homosexuality sin? No. Are all church teachings revelation? No.
And because we see what happened in the past with things prophets said and taught...there is no way to dismiss the real (and likely) possibility that this interpretation is cultural prejudices and speculation. I have not been able to see it any differently.
I simply just accept that there are things taught in church as revelation to others that I don't think people really know if it is or not. But they choose to believe it.
I choose differently. That is OK. That is what faith is. Personal. A choice. A stance on something that cannot be seen or proven in the physical world, but a hope that leads to actions based on belief, after serious study and consideration.
It takes courage to take a stance that goes against the common (group) belief...but in your heart you honestly feel it is right for yourself.
Something tells me God cares more about what we choose and where our heart is, than anything that is said in the scriptures or taught in church.
We are here for experiences. Not to find the answers to some test.