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by hawkgrrrl
23 May 2019, 17:33
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: The Nature of Men in the LDS Church
Replies: 21
Views: 969

Re: The Nature of Men in the LDS Church

It did strike a chord with me as well. I once used the term "delicate sexism" to describe what I had observed. I noticed that there were still a LOT of sexist assumptions about men & women in the church, and yet, at the same time, Mormon men are more emotional, sweet, and kind (on average), and IMO ...
by hawkgrrrl
22 May 2019, 20:41
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: History of the Temple Recommend Questions
Replies: 2
Views: 296

History of the Temple Recommend Questions

I did a summary of the changes to the temple recommend from a post done by Edward Kimball. Here's my summary: https://wheatandtares.org/2019/05/22/temple-recommend-evolution/ I thought it was pretty interesting. In particular, the questions really shifted in the 80s toward more faith-based ones, pro...
by hawkgrrrl
21 May 2019, 14:21
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 1054

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

I recently watched "On the Basis of Sex" the biopic of RBG. It is surprising to me that 50 years ago the US government did not see anything wrong with sex based discrimination. Because there are legitimate differences between the genders both physically and historically - all laws that discriminate...
by hawkgrrrl
20 May 2019, 12:45
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 1054

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

I was referring to the modern wave of feminism. It has, in my experience, extensively belittled men, by using terms such as "toxic masculinity" in order to further their cause. I think it's counterproductive. By using terms, like "toxic masculinity" (among others) we are doing exactly what the book...
by hawkgrrrl
17 May 2019, 13:06
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 1054

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

OON: I don't believe that either "masculine" or "feminine" traits are inherently better or closer to God. Therefore people who have primarily masculine traits (mostly, but not exclusively men) and people who have primarily feminine traits (mostly, but not exclusively women) all bring important socia...
by hawkgrrrl
16 May 2019, 14:48
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 1054

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

dande48 and on own now: I recommend you read the whole post I linked (or much better, the book) so you can improve your understanding of what Robert Greene is saying. Both so-called masculine and so-called feminine traits exist in ALL people, and they are all good qualities (or not inherently bad). ...
by hawkgrrrl
16 May 2019, 14:29
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Everything's on the table now
Replies: 22
Views: 921

Re: Everything's on the table now

I do think arrogant is more apt than shady, but I get where dande48 is coming from. Psychologically, though, it is incredibly hard for anyone to truly internalize the feeling of being wrong because once we know we were wrong, we are "right" about having been wrong in the past. We never know what it ...
by hawkgrrrl
15 May 2019, 13:26
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Everything's on the table now
Replies: 22
Views: 921

Everything's on the table now

I forgot to post this from last week. I was ruminating on the reasons why, as a progressive who's long been clamoring for changes like the recent sealing policy change, why is it that I'm suddenly freshly bothered when the changes occur. I know more orthodox members like to say a couple of things re...
by hawkgrrrl
15 May 2019, 13:11
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 1054

A Woman in a Man's Church

I've been reading Robert Greene's book, the Laws of Human Nature. It's really interesting. One of the chapters is on gender roles and the psychological and social problems when people are forced to behave in ways that aren't true to them. It also talks about the power of being more balanced as an in...
by hawkgrrrl
14 May 2019, 14:15
Forum: Support
Topic: How do I explain modesty?
Replies: 28
Views: 1038

Re: How do I explain modesty?

On modesty specifically: I wish we didn't have to have a vernacular that referenced female attire in any connotation about "modesty". However, I do believe that this is often an unfair playing field. A man at Church talks about the modesty of his daughter, and wham, sexist 50's-style patriarchal ba...