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by squarepeg
08 Jan 2018, 09:53
Forum: Support
Topic: What's wrong with masturbation?
Replies: 27
Views: 1845

Re: What's wrong with masturbation?

As frustrating as it was to STILL not have answers, I respected that so highly. I thought, ok, I can go back to church with this guy as my bishop. Thanks for correcting me on this...my sweeping statement was not fair to all those good leaders out there that are strong enough to say they don't know ...
by squarepeg
07 Jan 2018, 17:28
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Keeping Joy
Replies: 19
Views: 2235

Re: Keeping Joy

BeJoyful, welcome! You and I are similar in some ways. I'm a 30-something mother of three. My husband and I have been married 14 years. My husband and I both were raised in TBM families. We used to be TBM in the early years of our marriage but we both have had doubts surface, and not all of those co...
by squarepeg
07 Jan 2018, 17:06
Forum: Support
Topic: What's wrong with masturbation?
Replies: 27
Views: 1845

Re: What's wrong with masturbation?

Don't ask for direction on it from leaders, or you will get their opinion as if doctrine. Thanks, Heber. I think that's generally true. :lol: My previous bishop was one reason I felt I might be able to come back to church after several years of not attending, because he was exceptional for saying, ...
by squarepeg
04 Jan 2018, 19:46
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Grateful for this forum!
Replies: 4
Views: 380

Grateful for this forum!

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posts here. I can't express enough how much help you have been to me. I joined this forum almost a year ago when I was considering trying to reactivate myself after years of inactivity and wasn't sure I could do it. The people who take the time out of t...
by squarepeg
04 Jan 2018, 17:28
Forum: Support
Topic: What's wrong with masturbation?
Replies: 27
Views: 1845

Re: What's wrong with masturbation?

After several years of being married DW and I began to be able to talk about M in small doses. Would it be acceptable if we were apart for a long period of time? We also talked some about my pre-marriage struggle and feelings. As time progressed and I have been able to be more and more open about m...
by squarepeg
04 Jan 2018, 17:17
Forum: Support
Topic: Youth Bishop Interviews
Replies: 42
Views: 2603

Re: Youth Bishop Interviews

Dande48 wrote: I never had a bishop or church leader ask me anything beyond “Do you keep the LoC”. I was never asked if I had touched myself. I was never asked about mastrubation. Me, neither. I think we lucked out in the ward leadership department, though, because my husband, my mom, my dad, and se...
by squarepeg
29 Dec 2017, 22:57
Forum: Support
Topic: Youth Bishop Interviews
Replies: 42
Views: 2603

Re: Youth Bishop Interviews

I do renenver a specific written material I was given as a Young Man, which covered the aspects of the Law of Chastity. In fact, I think it was titled "To Young Men Only". All about that "little factory"... I wish the Church had better resources for women's sexual health. And men's too, I guess. Ni...
by squarepeg
29 Dec 2017, 22:48
Forum: Support
Topic: What's wrong with masturbation?
Replies: 27
Views: 1845

Re: What's wrong with masturbation?

Some prepubescent kids, even really young ones, like 2- to 4-year-olds, masturbate or otherwise stimulate themselves in a way that would be considered sexual. They'll not be engaged in any fantasies or visualization involving another person because they lack a context for that (assuming they're not ...
by squarepeg
29 Dec 2017, 20:47
Forum: Support
Topic: Youth Bishop Interviews
Replies: 42
Views: 2603

Re: Youth Bishop Interviews

The difficulty happens when the youth says, "No," or, "I'm not sure," or, "What does that mean?" In that situation, there isn't enough guidance to help Bishops who don't want to get into specifics know what to say or a rare Bishop who does want to get into specifics what not to say. It is at that p...
by squarepeg
20 Dec 2017, 17:17
Forum: Support
Topic: Youth Bishop Interviews
Replies: 42
Views: 2603

Re: Youth Bishop Interviews

Thanks so much, everyone, for imparting of your wisdom, thoughts, experiences. This is helping me a lot in working through this. I think it's true that some youth might be less likely to bring up issues of concern if the parent is in the room during the interview. (Mine won't, but some might.) Thing...