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by Heber13
15 Nov 2018, 13:17
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Relaxing on the Rules
Replies: 18
Views: 277

Re: Relaxing on the Rules

I've noticed that all too often the rules harm the obedient, without helping the disobedient. The people the rules are meant to rein in often just don't care about the rules, and will continue to disregard them no matter how many rules you have or how strict you make them. Meanwhile, those who do f...
by Heber13
14 Nov 2018, 11:03
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Relaxing on the Rules
Replies: 18
Views: 277

Relaxing on the Rules

Yesterday i received a text message on Facebook messenger from my missionary son who is serving in Spain. He has been out just past 18 months now. I immediately wondered if something happened or was wrong....Why was he messaging me? Was he breaking rules...oh crap...is my son a rule-breaker missiona...
by Heber13
12 Nov 2018, 20:14
Forum: Support
Topic: Inactive for months due to tithing. Can I still give my newborn a baby blessing with an expired reccomend?
Replies: 10
Views: 213

Re: Inactive for months due to tithing. Can I still give my newborn a baby blessing with an expired reccomend?

There has been a lot of good advice for you to consider. I would just add...have the conversation with the bishop in a matter of fact way, assuming you can do it and just asking him which date, and if he says he is not sure then maybe point out stuff above that says the handbook says it's ok to and ...
by Heber13
12 Nov 2018, 12:39
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Finding Nuanced Believers
Replies: 9
Views: 278

Re: Finding Nuanced Believers

1. Discussions on emphasis to include everyone as they are, all are welcome and should not be judged for their personal circumstances. These discussions usually reveal the people I am talking to are more nuanced the more I get into many topics and they don't stop me saying how evil and lost the worl...
by Heber13
07 Nov 2018, 16:23
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Healthier Approach to the Porn Dilemma
Replies: 21
Views: 758

Re: A Healthier Approach to the Porn Dilemma

It's a good discussion to raise the point that some things work for some people, but not for others. Some things are more dangerous for some than for others. It is rarely black and white, or simple. suffering from anxiety and general shame about sex (shame was 100% church induced, maybe also the anx...
by Heber13
07 Nov 2018, 10:54
Forum: Support
Topic: Inlaws
Replies: 12
Views: 241

Re: Inlaws

How do I tell her that I appreciate deeply her compassion and concern, but that my current faith path is not the always the equivalent to the bed of thorns that Prince Charming had to get through to get into the castle on most days? I think there are some people, and some conversations, that simply...
by Heber13
07 Nov 2018, 10:34
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Evangelical Millenial's at Odds With Their Faith
Replies: 19
Views: 589

Re: Evangelical Millenial's at Odds With Their Faith

I do believe that in the past one's religion might encompass a huge amount of one's community and communal identity (or tribe). Good point. It also seems like the younger generation sees the fruits of some of those things and they don't like it. They want something better, with less of the exclusio...
by Heber13
07 Nov 2018, 07:00
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: 4 Great Posts on the Middle Way
Replies: 18
Views: 429

Re: 4 Great Posts on the Middle Way

This part you wrote particularly rang familiar and true to me: The point of our existence is to grow, to learn to become our best selves, to gain wisdom through experience. Going to church for me surrounds me with people who don’t think just like I do. I can learn from them, sometimes by learning wh...
by Heber13
06 Nov 2018, 12:28
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Evangelical Millenial's at Odds With Their Faith
Replies: 19
Views: 589

Re: Evangelical Millenial's at Odds With Their Faith

dande48 wrote:
05 Nov 2018, 22:26
I wouldn't trade this time for any other.
Agreed. I say the same things often. We call it progress. It isn't free of suffering...but it is progress.
by Heber13
05 Nov 2018, 17:56
Forum: Support
Topic: Unsure where to go from here
Replies: 6
Views: 246

Re: Unsure where to go from here

While you are figuring those things out, don't forget some important positives: 1. You are at a good university that will help your future career. Stay focused on those life goals and appreciate where you are at. 2. You have a supportive family. That is a true blessing. Thank them often. 3. Your dep...