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by Mr. Sneelock
15 Jul 2018, 10:53
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Never sure when to give kudos and when not to!
Replies: 26
Views: 752

Re: Never sure when to give kudos and when not to!

I can totally relate SD. This exact phenomenon has been on my mind for the past few months so thanks for articulating it. I think for a lot of critics the church is "damned if they do, damned if they don't" and I feel myself playing in to that sentiment. Of course I should be ecstatic when the churc...
by Mr. Sneelock
23 May 2018, 08:03
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Traumatized at Church?
Replies: 18
Views: 1008

Re: Feeling Traumatized at Church?

As I read the postings I've asked myself "is traumatized" the right description for what I feel at church? I agree that trauma is a severe word to use and by using it I would never want to minimize the real trauma that others suffer because of horrible experiences. I am just trying to understand wh...
by Mr. Sneelock
22 May 2018, 12:04
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Traumatized at Church?
Replies: 18
Views: 1008

Feeling Traumatized at Church?

I imagine most of us have experienced it: You are sitting in church listening to a talk or lesson, when the speaker or teacher addresses an issue about which you feel uneasy. Maybe the the trigger is a certain hymn that starts to be sung by the congregation. Soon there is a knot in your stomach and ...
by Mr. Sneelock
22 May 2018, 11:30
Forum: Support
Topic: The whens, wheres, and whys of speaking up at church
Replies: 15
Views: 651

Re: The whens, wheres, and whys of speaking up at church

I can really relate to your conundrum Nibbler. This Sunday I was sitting in Elders Quorum debating with myself whether I should speak up and comment during a lesson about how the prophet will never lead us astray and the grave consequences of disobeying the prophet. The instructor even used the Haun...
by Mr. Sneelock
19 Apr 2018, 09:59
Forum: Support
Topic: Best Way to Convince Spouse of Tithing Surplus
Replies: 15
Views: 680

Re: Best Way to Convince Spouse of Tithing Surplus

My wife and I have also always considered any income we receive to be "ours" because we are partners in raising a family and we couldn't do what we do without one another. When I decided that I wanted to stop paying a full 10% to the church I assumed it was going to be a major sticking point or trau...
by Mr. Sneelock
13 Feb 2018, 10:33
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt
Replies: 11
Views: 846

Re: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt

I can appreciate the approach of choosing to focus on and seek after the things that bring peace into one's life. I'm glad that the author has been able to find happiness. I bristle, however, at the argument that feeling negative emotion upon learning information is a sign that the information is fa...
by Mr. Sneelock
16 Jan 2018, 09:52
Forum: Support
Topic: New First Presidency of the church
Replies: 54
Views: 2439

Re: New First Presidency of the church

Definitely hard news for me to swallow. I'm trying to keep my reactions in check. I know the decision has nothing to do with me but it feels personal because President Uchtdorf has been the general authority who has kept me spiritually fed and made me feel like there is still a place for me in the c...
by Mr. Sneelock
28 Dec 2017, 13:22
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Grief - Mourning with those that Mourn
Replies: 8
Views: 461

Re: Grief - Mourning with those that Mourn

Maybe someday I will have the courage when teaching Mosiah 18 to bring these stages of grief into the discussion. You just have to let us know so we can come listen! :smile: I home teach a family right now that is losing the father to cancer. In some ways I can see what you guys mean; it's like we'...
by Mr. Sneelock
11 Dec 2017, 22:48
Forum: Support
Topic: Helping a Mourning Parent
Replies: 4
Views: 334

Re: Helping a Mourning Parent

Hi lotsofgray, I have not been in that exact situation but I am a trained crisis counselor so maybe some of my thoughts can be useful to you. My advice would be to focus on listening to and validating the pain she is feeling without trying to compare it to what others have been through. The first th...
by Mr. Sneelock
05 Dec 2017, 08:41
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why the Church cannot change...at least not too much
Replies: 30
Views: 1550

Re: Why the Church cannot change...at least not too much

I'm too young to know this, but was there a problem with people leaving the church in 1978 after the priesthood policy was changed? All the personal experiences I have ever heard have been positive, like a feeling of rejoicing and confirmation that the change was coming from God. (Of course I don't ...