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by AmyJ
16 Feb 2018, 13:39
Forum: Support
Topic: sigh... apathy is setting in
Replies: 55
Views: 1448

Re: sigh... apathy is setting in

It is SO hard for many people to truly give up the idea that they know what's best for everyone else. My faith transition has been a humbling blessing in this way because I no longer assumed I was qualified to even guess that I knew what was best. Now I can emphatically throw up my hands and say th...
by AmyJ
16 Feb 2018, 10:02
Forum: Support
Topic: Tribal Living instead of Being an Island (Quasi-Vent)
Replies: 2
Views: 73

Tribal Living instead of Being an Island (Quasi-Vent)

Hi, How do you "live in a tribe" - belong to the LDS tribe, or any tribe really when you feel really discouraged and jaded and want to withdraw from society and live like Emily Dickinson did - in solitude with very limited social/tribal interaction. BACKGROUND: We have missed the last 4 Sundays of c...
by AmyJ
15 Feb 2018, 11:06
Forum: Support
Topic: Playing a different part in the church orchestra - Vocal Version
Replies: 4
Views: 70

Playing a different part in the church orchestra - Vocal Version

One of the things I have learned through singing the alto part for the last 20+ years is to tune out the other parts (mostly the soprano melody). I learned to focus on what my part was and listen for those who were singing my part as well. For the majority of church songs I actually wound up learnin...
by AmyJ
15 Feb 2018, 07:56
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt
Replies: 10
Views: 176

Re: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt

You could ask them whether they though the decision they made was a good decision or a bad decision instead of telling them it was a bad decision. That gets them reflecting on their own behaviors and how they use their agency. It helps them make judgments of their own behavior rather than always de...
by AmyJ
15 Feb 2018, 07:42
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Speaking up in class
Replies: 9
Views: 170

Re: Speaking up in class

I also struggle with the thought that I shouldn't speak up because the other people sitting in the lesson need to hear the lesson and be validated in their beliefs. That's part of why they are there, to walk the path that gives them comfort. Then you start to wonder how many people are attending th...
by AmyJ
15 Feb 2018, 06:35
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Speaking up in class
Replies: 9
Views: 170

Re: Speaking up in class

My $.02 1. Keep it short - there is a reason why "less is more". 2. Ask Questions 3. Make it Personal - using humble, personal words such as "In my experience..." or "One of the things I have learned..." invites the audience into listening instead of preparing an argument. 4. Speak their language/Fi...
by AmyJ
13 Feb 2018, 14:13
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: Are Spiritual Witnesses Valid?
Replies: 27
Views: 1096

Re: Are Spiritual Witnesses Valid?

It's to reach the point where we know strictly from within ourselves what we need to do - and then we do it. I think this is also the goal/best practices of effective parenting. Some parents are good at getting the principle of the clean house transferred, other parents might teach how to find a gr...
by AmyJ
13 Feb 2018, 14:01
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: Are Spiritual Witnesses Valid?
Replies: 27
Views: 1096

Re: Are Spiritual Witnesses Valid?

My key is to accept myself and quit trying to be what I'm not - and to accept others and quit trying to make them be what I am. I am seriously tempted to print this onto a piece of paper and frame it as rule/reminder for my household... How many squabbles can I stop between the oldest and youngest ...
by AmyJ
13 Feb 2018, 13:23
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt
Replies: 10
Views: 176

Re: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt

I think that what bothers me is the "Obedience = Happiness" model applied in this circumstance. "Obedience" can equal "Happiness" in some instances in the sense that some risks are averted . And "Obedience" is convenient at times - at least from an organizational perspective. I find myself wanting m...
by AmyJ
13 Feb 2018, 12:50
Forum: Support
Topic: Sustaining Others in Callings
Replies: 7
Views: 139

Re: Sustaining Others in Callings

"Bro. Roy, do you sustain you bishop?" "Boy do I ever! I could tell you some crazy stories!" ;) I think the key point in "sustaining" this leader is not telling the crazy stories :P :crazy: 8-) But if they are crazy enough, can you write them down so 50 years from now or so they can drift as gospel...