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by AmyJ
19 Feb 2018, 12:27
Forum: Support
Topic: I Traded Up - Sunday Activity
Replies: 8
Views: 228

Re: I Traded Up - Sunday Activity

We missed church again (up to week 5 - 3 weeks of sickness, 2 snow Sundays - 1 of them the service was cancelled for branch-wide). Faith transition aside - DH has a hefty cold/is recovering from a migraine. DD#1 is finally over the cold <crosses fingers> and DD#2 (the toddler) has been dealing with ...
by AmyJ
19 Feb 2018, 12:11
Forum: Support
Topic: Selfishness vs. Self-Care/Self-Preservation
Replies: 6
Views: 52

Re: Selfishness vs. Self-Care/Self-Preservation

The key to me is whether someone still is focused on helping others, while recognizing that self-care is a constant need. It is the effort to find a proper balance that includes solid self-care. Balance is the key, and balance is an individual thing. As with so many things, moderation is important....
by AmyJ
19 Feb 2018, 12:01
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: People Who Were Spared...
Replies: 0
Views: 19

People Who Were Spared...

I found it interesting what I could learn about those people who were alive at the time of Jesus Christ's visit in the Americas. Old Testament Sacrifice Practice Believers - "And ye shall offer up unto me no more the shedding of blood; yea, your sacrifices and your burnt offerings shall be done away...
by AmyJ
19 Feb 2018, 09:54
Forum: Support
Topic: Selfishness vs. Self-Care/Self-Preservation
Replies: 6
Views: 52

Re: Selfishness vs. Self-Care/Self-Preservation

I absolutely agree with all that, Beefster. I guess the question I have is how can you tell if it genuine self-preservation vs selfishness internally? If you ask others for advice on that front, they are going to have an inherent internal bias towards your action being "selfish" because it impacts t...
by AmyJ
19 Feb 2018, 07:55
Forum: Support
Topic: Selfishness vs. Self-Care/Self-Preservation
Replies: 6
Views: 52

Selfishness vs. Self-Care/Self-Preservation

Hello, I have been giving a lot of thought to the difference being selfish and taking care of one's self/setting boundaries. 1 has a very negative connotation, and the other has a slightly positive/neutral connotation. Here are the difference(s) I see: 1. Perspective: Most people do not want to be s...
by AmyJ
19 Feb 2018, 06:20
Forum: Support
Topic: sigh... apathy is setting in
Replies: 56
Views: 1541

Re: sigh... apathy is setting in

Amen. My personal goal is that everyone who comes into my path is loved for who they are, and inspired/encouraged into making choices THEMSELVES to be a better version of themselves. I am not responsible for their choices, but I can listen and do my best to set up a nurturing/strengthening environm...
by AmyJ
16 Feb 2018, 13:39
Forum: Support
Topic: sigh... apathy is setting in
Replies: 56
Views: 1541

Re: sigh... apathy is setting in

It is SO hard for many people to truly give up the idea that they know what's best for everyone else. My faith transition has been a humbling blessing in this way because I no longer assumed I was qualified to even guess that I knew what was best. Now I can emphatically throw up my hands and say th...
by AmyJ
16 Feb 2018, 10:02
Forum: Support
Topic: Tribal Living instead of Being an Island (Quasi-Vent)
Replies: 2
Views: 101

Tribal Living instead of Being an Island (Quasi-Vent)

Hi, How do you "live in a tribe" - belong to the LDS tribe, or any tribe really when you feel really discouraged and jaded and want to withdraw from society and live like Emily Dickinson did - in solitude with very limited social/tribal interaction. BACKGROUND: We have missed the last 4 Sundays of c...
by AmyJ
15 Feb 2018, 11:06
Forum: Support
Topic: Playing a different part in the church orchestra - Vocal Version
Replies: 4
Views: 85

Playing a different part in the church orchestra - Vocal Version

One of the things I have learned through singing the alto part for the last 20+ years is to tune out the other parts (mostly the soprano melody). I learned to focus on what my part was and listen for those who were singing my part as well. For the majority of church songs I actually wound up learnin...
by AmyJ
15 Feb 2018, 07:56
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt
Replies: 10
Views: 214

Re: How Questioning Strengthened My Faith Instead of My Doubt

You could ask them whether they though the decision they made was a good decision or a bad decision instead of telling them it was a bad decision. That gets them reflecting on their own behaviors and how they use their agency. It helps them make judgments of their own behavior rather than always de...