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I learned that I couldn't trust anybody to recognize my worth. I learned to expect to be rejected over trivial things. For me, I don't expect others to recognize my worth because a) I don't really know it myself, b) it doesn't translate well. I expect people to recognize that I have worth (golden r...

I think that after the ordinances, a person's path becomes more individually focused and tailored to their situation - paradoxically, it gets hand-waved into "enduring to the end". So no, you are not "done" - your just in the land where the church can't guide your life as much as it used to because ...

Yes/No/Maybe? Yes, because I have always been a thinker - it is a survival technique of mine. My brain is not wired to get a lot of social/cultural/non-verbal information instantly. Whenever I enter a room or a conversation, I basically run a mental clinical diagnostic on everyone to determine their...

I really enjoyed your article, thank you. My parents wound up championing some form of the Free/Autonomous and Enmeshed / ambivalent styles. However, I wanted the consequences of a more Dismissive (hands-off) parenting style. I wanted to rely on my self to a certain degree (one way to ensure it gets...

I like it:) For me, I think that something happened and that Joseph spent a lifetime trying to define it and establish what it meant. I struggle with the 1st vision shifting in meaning from "forgiveness of sins" as a personal matter to "vision of God" to establish doctrine. It doesn't make sense to ...

Our RS lesson was Dallin Oaks GC "Truth and The Plan" talk. It was full of "We're Number One and Judging Others". We had the privilege of listening to the whole d*&# thing. Only stopping it long enough for comments like, "The Proclamation on the Family. So ahead of it's time" and "People searching ...

But there's no way to regulate the "home Church" program. :) Heck, they're going to try. I'm sure they'll bring it up in the PPI (if they can ever figure out how to catch me). But it's not like Home Teaching, ministering, genealogy, or temple attendance. There's no good metric. Comparisons are goin...

I hear ya... Sunday School is too big now in our branch too... Our Gospel Doctrine teacher is very smart and probably very insecure, so she winds up rambling and testifying a lot. It didn't help her teaching equilibrium that one of our well known respected members of the branch appears to have passe...

I think it matters why we are motivated to be in a situation that has an "appearance of evil" and the attendant risk. There are good reasons not to be at certain places at certain times - but sometimes there are external motivations to do so. I think that people in general tend to distill motivation...

I am very sorry for this Amy. It can really hurt when people close to us devalue and/or invalidate our faith transition. I remember a time when my wife was convinced that I had lost the spirit and that I was less positive and more irritable as a result. This of course could become a self fulfilling...