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by AmyJ
04 Aug 2020, 05:11
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 3
Views: 186

Boundaries

I had a conversation with a friend about good parameters to use when setting boundaries. Because the conversation was incomplete, and because most people who post here seem to have had to thoughtfully have set boundaries between themselves and the church, or themselves and other church members, I th...
by AmyJ
03 Aug 2020, 07:52
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Wouldn't it be easier just to tell us?
Replies: 11
Views: 513

Re: Wouldn't it be easier just to tell us?

The older I get, the more I think that a lot gets lost in translation. We say the end goal is "to be like God" - but what we have is a collection of narratives that usually wind up feeling vague, contradictory, confusion between what is literal, figurative, or metaphorical and incomplete if you are ...
by AmyJ
22 Jul 2020, 09:13
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: What brings you joy?
Replies: 14
Views: 916

Re: What brings you joy?

Is there anything about church that brings you joy? This is not an easy question to answer, but worth thinking about. I am still in a phase where I am trying to figure out what I actually get from the church, and what I can and/or feel inspired to return. People - there are some people in our branc...
by AmyJ
20 Jul 2020, 05:58
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: What brings you joy?
Replies: 14
Views: 916

Re: What brings you joy?

Thanks for this post. Spouse - this one is a lot more complicated then it used to be. There is a fair amount of water under the bridge and we have a lot going on. a) Shared Experience - sometimes when we watch TV or connect intellectually. b) Growth - I try to celebrate his victories and successes a...
by AmyJ
16 Jul 2020, 05:17
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How are you handling the chaos?
Replies: 7
Views: 617

Re: How are you handling the chaos?

I have been working from home while finishing my online degree and being cooped up with my husband and my 2 daughters (10.5 and 3.75 years old) in our very small house. I have also started job hunting for a better position. Coping Strategies: A) Be Out In Nature - I take my girls for a stroll/walk/h...
by AmyJ
14 Jul 2020, 06:20
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: Does the formula for developing spirituality work for you?
Replies: 8
Views: 1157

Re: Does the formula for developing spirituality work for you?

I have been trying to answer this question for the past 2 days in my head.... hopefully it is worth 2 days of thinking. The biggest hurdle I have right now is that I am not trying to develop spirituality [waits for lightning to strike]. I know that I have spent some time defining personal spirituali...
by AmyJ
10 Jul 2020, 05:42
Forum: Support
Topic: Challenging discussion
Replies: 12
Views: 1318

Re: Challenging discussion

I agree that it is a compassionate viewpoint and it could be a lot worse. We often talk about our faith understanding as a house with tenets being specific physical aspects of a house. In this case, I feel that her viewpoint functions like a plank over a gaping hole in the floor - she sees the plank...
by AmyJ
09 Jul 2020, 08:36
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: The God of this world
Replies: 11
Views: 519

Re: The God of this world

Maslow's hierarchy of needs describe survival, safety, love/belonging, esteem, and self actualization. I believe that religion and tribalism was a huge factor in survival and safety in times past, though not as much in the modern age. From my perspective, the need for tribe formation has not weaken...
by AmyJ
09 Jul 2020, 08:33
Forum: Support
Topic: Challenging discussion
Replies: 12
Views: 1318

Re: Challenging discussion

It can be hard to reassure the family about the status quo while changing perspective on religious subjects. There is a ton written here about it in different places... A Side Bar Conversation - Personal Beliefs (and values) shifting in an Organized Religion setting The church teachings tend to conn...
by AmyJ
08 Jul 2020, 05:37
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Change...
Replies: 18
Views: 1832

Re: Change...

As I go through the lists, I believe that we are either conforming (to an organization or society) or changing our life (our beliefs, behavior or core being). Both are important depending on the topic at hand. I personally want to address: changes within my life or core being. I'm curious what chan...