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by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:52
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

And DJ added in something I wanted to say. She is trying to fear you (scare you) into staying with the plan. But I have become very convinced that most of the underlying driving emotion for this is the fear that they member has. They have been taught to fear leaving the church as it is one of the v...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:49
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

You have received some very good advice and support already, and I agree with the comments above. This is how religion can help us. The discussion topics...Joseph Smith, or the temple, or garments, or visiting teaching...they are just stuff. The topics may be different than other religions, but hum...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:47
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

Sometimes people feel that the church is the only thing keeping us from being adulterous back-biting drug addicts. Especially if she felt that she "lost" your sister she may fear the same for you. My advice is to wait... and then when the discussion does come up again to calmly and gently repeat so...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:44
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

So sorry you had to go through that discussion. I want to reiterate what has been said that her gut reaction is certainly built on fear and also out of love for you. I have come to find that those with a true believing fundamentalist mindset have a really hard time even comprehending how someone co...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:42
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

OUCH to the things in bold...OUCH!!! But that's what we are up against in the church. This is tough -- how it divides families when one person doesn't appear to "tow the line". I empathize with how you are feeling. Honestly - I called her out and said " I find it really funny that you just spent al...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:38
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

LookingHard wrote:
10 Apr 2017, 04:52
They have been taught to fear leaving the church as it is one of the very worst things that could happen to someone.
BINGO
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:37
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

You might want to email her President Uchtdorf's talk from conference where he said "fear isn't the way to change others, love is" and say that you absolutely felt like she was trying to "scare" you into the gospel and that only drives people away. LH beat me to it. I think this is at least part of...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:35
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

You might want to email her President Uchtdorf's talk from conference where he said "fear isn't the way to change others, love is" and say that you absolutely felt like she was trying to "scare" you into the gospel and that only drives people away. I didn't even think of that - you make a great poi...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:33
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

Some bits and bobs, in case they help. At least, they might help you, even if they don't help your mom understand or accept your beliefs. Alma 32, the go-to LDS text on faith, talks 10x more about goodness than about truth - not exaggerating. StayLDS temple recommend question surveys and discussion...
by NotYourMollyMormon
11 Apr 2017, 18:27
Forum: Support
Topic: Just had a huge argument with my mom...
Replies: 25
Views: 1558

Re: Just had a huge argument with my mom...

Try to spend whatever quality time you can with her and let the rest go. Out of curiosity, is this typical behavior for her? Also wondering her approximate age and stage of life. Good luck, and I hope you find support here. Thanks Ann for your advice. Unfortunately it is typical behavior from her. ...