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by Reuben
18 Feb 2019, 19:39
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Parental Attachment & Church Experience
Replies: 6
Views: 329

Re: Parental Attachment & Church Experience

My parents are the Dismissive type, and the description matches my reaction to the FC pretty well, but there might be a more important reason. I was bullied for years. I learned that I couldn't trust anybody to recognize my worth. I learned to expect to be rejected over trivial things. By the time o...
by Reuben
07 Feb 2019, 02:52
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: From whence comes conscience?
Replies: 5
Views: 218

Re: From whence comes conscience?

I think of conscience as the result of unconscious processes that leave us with an "avoid" reaction and anticipatory guilt or shame. The fact that the processes are unconscious doesn't make them dumb - in fact, they're very smart, predictive, context-sensitive, state-sensitive... and highly programm...
by Reuben
27 Jan 2019, 10:15
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Dealing with the common discourse on doubt
Replies: 4
Views: 203

Re: Dealing with the common discourse on doubt

To sum up, here's what I think my approach to pushing back on the common discourse will be. 1. There's currently no room for faithful uncertainty. This is bad because it doesn't leave room for epistemic humility, or respecting the many members who react to counterevidence by believing less strongly....
by Reuben
27 Jan 2019, 10:02
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Dealing with the common discourse on doubt
Replies: 4
Views: 203

Re: Dealing with the common discourse on doubt

I hear you, dande. That describes me pretty well, too. I think the rest of what I found is applicable. In short, the scriptures don't justify condemning us at all. Like Curt, I've noticed the retroactive judgment of Thomas before. In my searches to try to understand the senses the KJV uses the word ...
by Reuben
27 Jan 2019, 09:10
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Dealing with the common discourse on doubt
Replies: 4
Views: 203

Dealing with the common discourse on doubt

I want to expand on something Curt posted about the word doubt on another thread without derailing it. We tend to equate doubt with questioning or not believing fully - of keeping an open mind. Church leaders tend to equate doubt with sign seeking - which is seen as having a closed mind. "Doubting T...
by Reuben
24 Jan 2019, 01:38
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Holding Past Actions Against People and Organizations
Replies: 21
Views: 653

Re: Holding Past Actions Against People and Organizations

I've been kicking around the idea of never having affective relationships with organizations, which makes the idea of forgiving them moot. I don't mean cutting myself off from belonging to every organization, but fundamentally changing how I think about my relationships with them. I work for Company...
by Reuben
13 Jan 2019, 17:54
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: What should be ADDED to the WoW?
Replies: 21
Views: 775

Re: What should be ADDED to the WoW?

I would add a reminder that it has nothing to do with the purity of your soul, because it's the things that come out of your mouth that defile you, not the things you put into it.
by Reuben
03 Jan 2019, 11:40
Forum: Support
Topic: Massive Changes to the Temple Endowment
Replies: 16
Views: 860

Re: Massive Changes to the Temple Endowment

The changes to make the ordinances nearly gender-equal are great. Unqualified, full-stop. I wouldn't be at all surprised if President Oaks is behind them. He's been an advocate for such things in the past. For example, he was the apostle who said his mother was the presiding authority in his home af...
by Reuben
03 Jan 2019, 11:28
Forum: Support
Topic: To SquarePeg and All Our Sisters from BCC
Replies: 4
Views: 240

Re: To SquarePeg and All Our Sisters from BCC

That's beautiful.
by Reuben
21 Dec 2018, 18:43
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Excommunication hurts membership in long run?
Replies: 14
Views: 584

Re: Excommunication hurts membership in long run?

I'm with OON on this. For me, the first red flag was that the authors interpreted "troubled" as meaning "bad for retention."

I'm not sure they were intentionally manipulating anyone, though. It's very easy to write leading questions simply by writing from your own point of view.