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by Reuben
21 Jun 2017, 01:28
Forum: Support
Topic: new website to build bridges
Replies: 8
Views: 176

Re: new website to build bridges

Here's a thing to click on: http://mormonprimer.com/
by Reuben
21 Jun 2017, 00:39
Forum: Support
Topic: Quick update on another meeting with SP
Replies: 40
Views: 451

Re: Quick update on another meeting with SP

I trawled through Faces East a little while ago. Most of the posts seemed to be about awful, hideous things the unbelieving spouses were doing: abuse, infidelity, alcoholism, you name it. But most people like us - even those who don't try to stay - don't do these things. It's selection bias. The peo...
by Reuben
20 Jun 2017, 14:29
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Of Testimonies and Twelve Year Olds
Replies: 47
Views: 641

Re: Of Testimonies and Twelve Year Olds

I think it's understandable that he was asked to cut her off, given how so many members feel so intensely persecuted by the normalization of homosexuality. Her message didn't contain just your average, everyday doctrinal mistake or personal disagreement. It contained a rejection of one of the Church...
by Reuben
20 Jun 2017, 12:59
Forum: Support
Topic: Quick update on another meeting with SP
Replies: 40
Views: 451

Re: Quick update on another meeting with SP

<swearing redacted>

You're taking this a lot better than I would. I suppose you have a lot more motivation to take it well.

Any idea what caused his change of heart?

How did your wife react?
by Reuben
20 Jun 2017, 02:22
Forum: Support
Topic: Son doesn't want to pass the sacrament
Replies: 40
Views: 1351

Re: Son doesn't want to pass the sacrament

I love my parents, but I wish they loved me for who I am. I'm not making the same mistake with my children. If there's anything you can do to stop your husband from making this mistake, do it. My wife pointed out that it's best to help your husband love your son for who he is in as gentle a way as ...
by Reuben
20 Jun 2017, 00:39
Forum: Support
Topic: Son doesn't want to pass the sacrament
Replies: 40
Views: 1351

Re: Son doesn't want to pass the sacrament

I wish I could give a few people a stern talking-to and make it all better. It's time for the young men to step up and rally around your son. This kind of brotherhood is the very purpose of a priesthood quorum. Apologies, understanding and acceptance are in order. Some might decide to do that on the...
by Reuben
19 Jun 2017, 12:18
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Of Testimonies and Twelve Year Olds
Replies: 47
Views: 641

Re: Of Testimonies and Twelve Year Olds

I've read elsewhere that her testimony was recorded for her LGBT friends in a "Rainbow Mutual" event she attends once a month. I misremembered: what I read didn't say the group meets once a month. (I wonder if it's the group that the Encircle house in Provo hosts.) In fact, here's what I read, from...
by Reuben
19 Jun 2017, 11:58
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Of Testimonies and Twelve Year Olds
Replies: 47
Views: 641

Re: Of Testimonies and Twelve Year Olds

More context, from a spoken interview with Savannah: http://iliketolookforrainbows.com/2017/05/30/episode-2-savannahs-story-the-transcript/ Search on the page for "Now, we have a very special queer Mormon" to get right to the interview. The transcript includes photos of Savannah's handwritten testim...
by Reuben
18 Jun 2017, 13:30
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why the Church abuses
Replies: 42
Views: 976

Re: Why the Church abuses

What Ray said. The point of sussing out reasons is to determine whether there's anything I can do to effect small changes, and then determine what that is. Whether ignorance (not abuse) is intentional has a lot to do with whether something can be done, and what. Wilful ignorance can be really hard t...
by Reuben
18 Jun 2017, 11:38
Forum: Support
Topic: The things I have told very few...
Replies: 6
Views: 196

Re: The things I have told very few...

Welcome! I imagine that sharing so much of your past so candidly was scary. I think you'll find your bravery rewarded: nobody here will judge you harshly or declare that any past action is the cause of your doubts. So many abuse survivors tell similar stories: using porn and sex to cope, guilt, sham...