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by mfree6464
12 Jun 2020, 12:12
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse
Replies: 97
Views: 17432

Re: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse

I was listening to a podcast by John Dehlin recently and, as many of you may know, he did his Masters research and thesis on OCD. I found that much of what he shared applied to me and the suffering I experienced when I first started this thread with regard to handling my wife's sexual past. I am by ...
by mfree6464
08 Apr 2020, 12:21
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse
Replies: 97
Views: 17432

Re: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse

I have lots of thoughts and a fair amount of experience on this topic.. I don't know if I can distill them into anything useful for you, but I'll try. First, groundhog, it would probably be best to start a new thread.. Cnsl1, as the OP I'd love to hear your thoughts on the subject! Seeing as this t...
by mfree6464
05 Apr 2020, 15:21
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse
Replies: 97
Views: 17432

Re: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse

Count yourself lucky you have a spouse with a sexual nature. Maybe all those great years you have had are somewhat attributable to their behaviors before they met you. Dont look down on something that is a benefit. I understand what Cadence is saying here and in my case his advice does ring true. T...
by mfree6464
05 Apr 2020, 15:07
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse
Replies: 97
Views: 17432

Re: Coping With Previous Sexual History of a Spouse

Hi Groundhog, Sorry to hear you are struggling with this difficult issue. A couple thoughts came to mind after reading your post. First, I am glad I married my wife and would do it all over again given the opportunity. She is the one for me and this issue has never changed my feelings in that regard...
by mfree6464
28 Mar 2020, 08:29
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: Missing Prayer in My Life
Replies: 7
Views: 844

Re: Missing Prayer in My Life

The title could just as well be Does Prayer Help. I stopped praying about a year ago. I vividly remember going to bed that first night after making my decision to stop praying and I felt this tremendous loss. It felt like a life-long friend had passed away - I felt really sad. Rather than go right ...
by mfree6464
09 Feb 2020, 15:46
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: Struggling with Understanding the Truth of the Spirit
Replies: 9
Views: 836

Re: Struggling with Understanding the Truth of the Spirit

I spent Christmas this year with some family members who are not LDS. They invited me to attend their Presbyterian service and, for the first time in my life, I attended another church. I felt the Spirit. The surroundings were different. Rock band, Crosses, "Hip" Pastor, etc. But the one thing that ...
by mfree6464
01 Feb 2020, 13:14
Forum: Introductions
Topic: We can't get married
Replies: 27
Views: 3857

Re: We can't get married

I'm sorry to hear you are going through such challenging times. Failed marriage, cancer, deaths of loved ones. Each one is enough to break an individual, let alone having to deal with the complications of all three concurrently. You end your words by stating you would love to be married to your new ...
by mfree6464
24 Jan 2020, 06:45
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: It is God's Will
Replies: 13
Views: 1328

It is God's Will

We as members of the church have a number of go-to phrases we like to use that, in my view, help us massage the cognitive dissonance we can experience when things don't add up in what we believe to be God's one true church. A couple that come to mind immediately are "It's God's will" and "He was spe...
by mfree6464
24 Jan 2020, 06:22
Forum: Support
Topic: Church Disavows Dark Sin as a Curse
Replies: 17
Views: 1466

Re: Church Disavows Dark Sin as a Curse

One of the more common explanations I hear among us LDS folks when comments from leaders are contradictory is that the leaders were speaking to us as men when the problematic statements were made. Generally this is used to discredit past statements and archaic doctrine. But it could very easily be u...
by mfree6464
14 Nov 2019, 08:59
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Have you seen this happening in your region of the world?
Replies: 20
Views: 2086

Re: Have you seen this happening in your region of the world?

We have a paid cable subscription through a very major provider that allows us to view recorded shows anywhere via the internet. My wife was watching a show on her laptop last week and called me over when she saw this being advertised during a commercial break. We live in the southeastern US.