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by JAC
24 Aug 2018, 15:31
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Healthier Approach to the Porn Dilemma
Replies: 21
Views: 1229

Re: A Healthier Approach to the Porn Dilemma

I have been trying to change things in my neck of the woods. I recently gave a talk in stake conference and admitted to everyone I was a compulsive user of porn for most of my life. I outlined what I did to change and invited everyone to follow my lead. I made sure to make these points in my talk: M...
by JAC
30 Jul 2018, 11:50
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: TR Interview Grilling
Replies: 24
Views: 1109

Re: TR Interview Grilling

I have a TR interview with the stake tomorrow. I'll pay close attention to any deviations from the script. In my experience they usually ask a bunch of chit chat questions before the interview, and then dive into the official questions. I've frequently had leaders deviate from the script when they g...
by JAC
27 Jul 2018, 10:29
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Bill Reel about to get excommunicated? >:-(
Replies: 121
Views: 7880

Re: Bill Reel about to get excommunicated? >:-(

I was a premium subscriber to Bill's podcast and interacted with him on a few occasions. I love the guy and have enjoyed hearing his perspective and have always appreciated his intellectual musings that were also filled with faith and hope. I admittedly stopped listening to him and following him on ...
by JAC
09 May 2018, 11:20
Forum: Support
Topic: Letting Go
Replies: 11
Views: 1046

Re: Letting Go

LookingHard wrote:
08 May 2018, 11:26
I too have had that peace after the dark night of the soul. It is a great relief.
I am familiar with Fowlers stages of faith and your comment made me ask the question: Have I moved into the fifth stage? I guess time will tell.
by JAC
08 May 2018, 10:07
Forum: Support
Topic: Letting Go
Replies: 11
Views: 1046

Letting Go

I had an unexpected experience last week that I have to share. Thus far I haven't told anyone, so I'm turning to this group knowing you guys are safe to share this with. I've lurked on this site for several years and am grateful for all your perspectives. Thanks to all of you that post regularly. My...
by JAC
06 Apr 2018, 08:15
Forum: History and Doctrine Discussions
Topic: Word of Wisdom - Experiment
Replies: 13
Views: 1108

Re: Word of Wisdom - Experiment

The WOW has created cognitive dissonance in my wife because she has a condition where eating grains causes ulcers in her colon. If she followed the diet outlined in the WOW she would be in bad shape. She eats a lot a meat and vegetables, but absolutely no grains. She is an uber TBM, and has expresse...
by JAC
07 Mar 2018, 15:35
Forum: Support
Topic: Why I stopped going to church, and what will it take to get me to go back?
Replies: 3
Views: 520

Why I stopped going to church, and what will it take to get me to go back?

My friend shared this post with me today. On the surface it is sad, but for some reason it uplifted me. I especially like his advice to members on what they can do to help. Link: https://www.facebook.com/lucas.steimle/posts/10215871528360576 -------------------------------------------------- Lucas S...
by JAC
07 Mar 2018, 11:32
Forum: Support
Topic: My big hairy list of concerns
Replies: 25
Views: 1771

Re: My big hairy list of concerns

I have observed that many members of the church project an image of righteousness that is less than accurate. I know from personal experience that the facade is difficult to maintain and led me to hate the parts of me that I hid from everyone else. I gradually grew to hate myself. Living a double li...
by JAC
07 Mar 2018, 08:44
Forum: Support
Topic: My big hairy list of concerns
Replies: 25
Views: 1771

Re: My big hairy list of concerns

There's great advice tucked away in chastity standards, but I think it may be a mistake to categorize these issues as next to murder in severity. Scott Cannon's story resonates strongly with me because of how these teachings have affected my self worth. Had I started younger or gotten into more ser...
by JAC
06 Mar 2018, 13:46
Forum: Support
Topic: My big hairy list of concerns
Replies: 25
Views: 1771

Re: My big hairy list of concerns

And don't give me any of the garbage like "you have to believe first" or "it's too sacred to talk about" (when referring to whether they have seen Christ) because the former is weak to confirmation bias and the latter is a total copout. This always strikes a cord with me. Many members believe that ...