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by LookingHard
14 Jun 2019, 11:59
Forum: Support
Topic: How I came back
Replies: 8
Views: 147

Re: How I came back

... finally left the church resigned etc etc Still attendee church as a non member. Almost two years later I was rebaptized and am now waiting for a year to have all priesthood and temple ordinances restored. I was able to come to terms with it all. Thanks so much for sharing. I do feel like I am c...
by LookingHard
11 Jun 2019, 07:43
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Returning to help others with a F/C
Replies: 6
Views: 168

Re: Returning to help others with a F/C

Glad to have you back. I would love to hear your story as it seems so infrequent (like almost never) that someone goes down the rabbit hole including removing their name from the church, then to return. I know I look at myself and I can't think of anything that the church could do to make me want to...
by LookingHard
02 Jun 2019, 06:45
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: RS video
Replies: 4
Views: 175

Re: RS video

I do think there has been a fairly consistent theme within the church of "only showing the nice parts" of our lives and this is fueling perfectionism (assuming others are close to it). Facebook and other social media are amplifying this. But as a devout Brene Brown follower, I believe being upfront ...
by LookingHard
28 May 2019, 19:44
Forum: Support
Topic: Struggling with a calling
Replies: 20
Views: 477

Re: Struggling with a calling

being a bishop's counselor is absolutely less busy than being YMP or Scoutmaster. I agree here also I have been a bishopric counselor a few times and I was scoutmaster for a LONG time. It felt like a cake walk to JUST be a counselor. A bishop is one thing, but a counselor usually isn't nearly so bu...
by LookingHard
17 May 2019, 05:53
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Everything's on the table now
Replies: 22
Views: 582

Re: Everything's on the table now

I do think arrogant is more apt than shady, but I get where dande48 is coming from. Psychologically, though, it is incredibly hard for anyone to truly internalize the feeling of being wrong because once we know we were wrong, we are "right" about having been wrong in the past. We never know what it...
by LookingHard
16 May 2019, 05:08
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Everything's on the table now
Replies: 22
Views: 582

Re: Everything's on the table now

I am with dande48 on this - and this is one of my main points pushing me away from the church. When I hear the, "oh he was just speaking as a man" pushed over and over - eventually to me it feels like, "the prophet is just like any of us - just a man". The older I get the more examples I see of past...
by LookingHard
15 May 2019, 16:26
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Everything's on the table now
Replies: 22
Views: 582

Re: Everything's on the table now

This blog post was yet another one of Hawkgrrrl's posts that made me thing, "Dang she is insightful." I agree 100% with her assessment and I "felt" it (i.e. very frustrated), but the way she detailed the WHY was spot on.
by LookingHard
09 May 2019, 05:54
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: More than enough
Replies: 25
Views: 691

Re: More than enough

I was about to essentially say what dande48 said in his first 2 paragraphs. For most people the sacrifice of paying tithing actually increases their commitment to the church. Once making such a sacrifice, mentally/emotionally it is hard to admit it you were wrong to do so. What to do about it? What ...
by LookingHard
06 May 2019, 11:47
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Sealing waiting period policy discontinued
Replies: 57
Views: 1498

Re: Sealing waiting period policy discontinued

Seriously, though. How awesome that the Church is seeing past "because that's the way it's always been" and is trying to have less collateral damage with its policies. Is this really good. I too am one of those "convert families" that I and my siblings had to exclude virtually our entire extended f...
by LookingHard
23 Mar 2019, 11:36
Forum: Book & Media Reviews
Topic: Sexual "Articles of Faith" for LDS Marital Intimacy
Replies: 12
Views: 624

Re: Sexual "Articles of Faith" for LDS Marital Intimacy

I have heard some say that it would be good if the church allowed people to get married civilly, then within a few days get sealed - maybe even go to the temple for the first time after the marriage. It is just so much pressure in one day and that pressure can get the marriage off to a bad start.