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by Riceandbeans
14 Mar 2014, 23:22
Forum: Support
Topic: Contempt for children
Replies: 36
Views: 1949

Re: Contempt for children

I promise I'll get to positive suggestions in this post. Bullying is commonly defined as having two essential traits: *an imbalance of power and *repetition. The way the compulsory state schools were set up for the industrial revolution depends entirely on maintaining an imbalance of power between t...
by Riceandbeans
11 Mar 2014, 21:52
Forum: Support
Topic: Contempt for children
Replies: 36
Views: 1949

Re: Contempt for children

No, I don't see it as unique to or worse. I see it as disappointing that it's not better in an organization that prides itself so much on having so much additional truth. I have to qualify and clarify: I do see this phenomenon as intensified in religious culture. I mentioned Puritan attitudes: the C...
by Riceandbeans
11 Mar 2014, 21:37
Forum: Support
Topic: Contempt for children
Replies: 36
Views: 1949

Re: Contempt for children

I'm sorry I don't get on here as often as I used to. John Holt pretty much sums up what I tried to express here: http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/john_holt4.html. I'd also recommend reading Alice Miller and Maria Montessori for more light on this subject. I don't agree with everything the Natural C...
by Riceandbeans
02 Mar 2014, 22:30
Forum: Support
Topic: Contempt for children
Replies: 36
Views: 1949

Re: Contempt for children

"Baptized members" - heh. That's a good one. I do have one question: since he's only four, don't you think he could very well forget this incident? I'd be much more worried if it happened to him at 13. He may well bury any clear recollection of this single incident later in life, but it's a symptom ...
by Riceandbeans
02 Mar 2014, 21:41
Forum: Support
Topic: What's "worked" for you during your faith crisis/transition?
Replies: 24
Views: 1265

Re: What's "worked" for you during your faith crisis/transit

My parents were from the Far East, and Eastern religions are by nature non-dogmatic (that is, if A is true it does not preclude the opposite of A). So when I found out that the evidence against the BOM is damning, I didn't take that to mean that the Church is necessarily a complete fraud (or a frau...
by Riceandbeans
02 Mar 2014, 21:19
Forum: Support
Topic: Contempt for children
Replies: 36
Views: 1949

Contempt for children

In SM meeting today, a little boy of four got up to bear his testimony. After the usual rote material, he said “I know that my dad loves me because I'm a good kid.” There was a rumble of laughter from the congregation – you know the kind. Oh, look at the kid, ain't that cute. The boy couldn't finish...
by Riceandbeans
08 Sep 2013, 22:27
Forum: Support
Topic: Not entirely pointless meeting
Replies: 5
Views: 415

Not entirely pointless meeting

For the past month they'd been plugging this special stake fireside for this evening. Sacrifice an hour of your time, they said, to hear vital and timely information about how to save our families. A special fireside to give us a special boost of know-how in seeing our families through these trouble...
by Riceandbeans
08 Sep 2013, 22:12
Forum: Support
Topic: I have some major decisions to make
Replies: 9
Views: 631

Re: I have some major decisions to make

There are things about how the church has treated the thorny problem of sexuality that I've had to just drop, saying "people have got it wrong." Like saying it's such a terrible sin to wank sometimes - that's about as clear a strategy of emotional manipulation as I've ever encountered. Sometimes a w...
by Riceandbeans
08 Sep 2013, 21:46
Forum: Support
Topic: Need some advice on how to deal with BYU culture
Replies: 20
Views: 2137

Re: Need some advice on how to deal with BYU culture

Hang around the HFAC. Get to know all the artists and pseudo-bohemians. I did, my junior year, and it saved me. Good luck. But, although I am glad to have been at BYU and learned what I did, some of the best parts of my education came from extracurricular activities, like cleaning the Wilk at night ...
by Riceandbeans
24 Aug 2013, 18:04
Forum: History and Doctrine Discussions
Topic: The 1/3 of the Host of Heaven
Replies: 43
Views: 8160

Re: The 1/3 of the Host of Heaven

Furthermore, this opens up a big can of worms about the nature of spirits, intelligences and consciousness. The idea of billions of sinister anthropomorphic ghosties with highly developed psychic identities lurking here and there and tempting us shows the common assumption that premortal spirits hav...