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by On Own Now
23 May 2019, 12:01
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 755

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

Toxic masculinity is a real thing. If we look at the Sermon on the Mount, and especially the Beatitudes, it is overwhelmingly a Sermon about the need to be more stereotypically female to a society that was organized upon and valued a stereotypically male organization and approach. Again, my primary...
by On Own Now
20 May 2019, 08:49
Forum: Support
Topic: Church video for SS lesson
Replies: 16
Views: 460

Re: Church video for SS lesson

Just a followup. I'd be interested to hear if/how this was used in SS yesterday. In my class with the 17-year-olds I didn't use the video in my lesson (or talk about marriage). We focused on the Lost Sheep, Prodigal Son (less), Pharisee and Publican, and Jesus healing the blind man, Bartimaeus. I di...
by On Own Now
20 May 2019, 07:39
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 755

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

I will be leaving StayLDS. This thread has been a major factor, but it's not the only one. In a few days, I'll write a final post that I've been thinking about, summarizing what I have learned in my path, including through the tremendous help of people here at StayLDS. But the dialog here has moved ...
by On Own Now
17 May 2019, 10:40
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 755

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

I'd like to articulate my own views briefly and hopefully leave this thread on more of an upswing (for my own mental health). I don't believe that either "masculine" or "feminine" traits are inherently better or closer to God. Therefore people who have primarily masculine traits (mostly, but not exc...
by On Own Now
16 May 2019, 15:40
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 755

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

[From Greene:] “in a group setting the masculine style is to require a leader, and to either aspire to that role or gain power by being the most loyal follower. Leaders will designate various deputies to do their bidding. Men form hierarchies and punish those who fall out of line. They are highly s...
by On Own Now
16 May 2019, 11:50
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: A Woman in a Man's Church
Replies: 24
Views: 755

Re: A Woman in a Man's Church

I just want to make sure I understand. Is it the opinion of people here that masculine traits are bad and feminine traits are good? That women should adopt some masculine traits in order to live in a man's world because that's what's been forced upon them and that men should adopt feminine traits in...
by On Own Now
15 May 2019, 15:26
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Everything's on the table now
Replies: 22
Views: 582

Re: Everything's on the table now

why is it that I'm suddenly freshly bothered when the changes occur. I can't speak for anyone specifically, but I do believe that one cause of bother is that when the Church makes these changes, they do it in a way that does not address or acknowledge past pain. There is no lamenting of the what wa...
by On Own Now
14 May 2019, 15:58
Forum: Support
Topic: How do I explain modesty?
Replies: 25
Views: 489

Re: How do I explain modesty?

DarkJedi wrote:
14 May 2019, 15:17
Reverent people may fold their arms and sit quietly, but that isn't the reverence - the reverence is in their minds/hearts.
Well-said.
by On Own Now
14 May 2019, 14:58
Forum: Support
Topic: How do I explain modesty?
Replies: 25
Views: 489

Re: How do I explain modesty?

On modesty specifically: I wish we didn't have to have a vernacular that referenced female attire in any connotation about "modesty". However, I do believe that this is often an unfair playing field. A man at Church talks about the modesty of his daughter, and wham, sexist 50's-style patriarchal ba...
by On Own Now
14 May 2019, 11:16
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: RM's auto-admitted to BYU-Pathway Program
Replies: 26
Views: 499

Re: RM's auto-admitted to BYU-Pathway Program

Roy, thank you for posting this. The Church really does take to heart the concept of providing education in very good and affordable ways. It was a steal to get the education I did from BYU. The Pathway Program was already a major benefit to those who wanted to pursue it. This is even better and mor...